lalalovekay Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 1.5 months post break up, 10 days no contact. At first it was so hard, I woke up every morning thinking of him, crying. Didnt even do my make up nor hair for work. Wouldnt say hi to anyone I would just do my job. Go home cry and sleep. For a whole MONTH. When I started the no contact I always checked my phone hoping he would text me "im sorry baby I miss you " but that only hurt more and even saying it now hurts knowing that text never came. On my birthday at midnight I stayed up hoping he would say "happy birthday. Im sorry for everything lets give it another shot" every hour I kept checking my phone until I couldnt take it anymore. I blocked him off twitter, facebook, instagram that day. It hurt a lot but yet somehow felt so much better. That day I didnt smile, it hurt to know how we had so much planned, it hurt to know how I did so much for his birthday and all I got was "happy birthday, have a good one" . But then I realized, why am I not enjoying my birthday when I have ALL THESE people that actually care about me, that actually want to celebrate my life with me. I realized theres no point in being sad for ONE person when everyone else is actually there for me. So in a way im so glad I started no contact especially before my birthday. Because that was the day I decided "**** this, I deserve better." Thats the day I finally threw away everything he gave me and after that day. I started smiling more, finally did my make up, my hair for work. I talk to people I didnt talk to before. And now my high school crush is back. He too just got out of a relationship so its making it easy on both of us to have each other. I dont know where I was trying to go with this but point is, if you're going through a break up, or no contact. Know these things -its okay too cry, but they dont deserve your tears. -let them go and you feel your heart beating again 3
karpeezy Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 You go girl!! Waiting is a horrible feeling, especially when what you are waiting for never comes. But you are right! There are plenty of other people who want you around, and want to spend time with you and celebrate with you! Even if you don't feel like celebrating, sometimes taking that first step leads to the next step and so on. 1
Author lalalovekay Posted August 29, 2013 Author Posted August 29, 2013 You go girl!! Waiting is a horrible feeling, especially when what you are waiting for never comes. But you are right! There are plenty of other people who want you around, and want to spend time with you and celebrate with you! Even if you don't feel like celebrating, sometimes taking that first step leads to the next step and so on. I always told myself I would wait for ever. And im surprised afyer 10 days of no contact I finally decided to let go. I thought I would stay like that forever. Yes it still hurts but why stay alone crying when I can enjoy my life
llleonidus Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 There seems to be a common theme with the 10 days of nc, i to am on day 10 and feeling much better today iv'e accepted she wont call, acceptance is the first step to healing.Right after i blocked her off every thing deleted her number i instantly felt better as well. Thing is with my situation, she told me she loved me for the first time only the night before we have 1 little argument (my fault) and thats it. i have no idea how she can hold on to this for so long. Stay strong babe no contact is the way forward
Author lalalovekay Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 There seems to be a common theme with the 10 days of nc, i to am on day 10 and feeling much better today iv'e accepted she wont call, acceptance is the first step to healing.Right after i blocked her off every thing deleted her number i instantly felt better as well. Thing is with my situation, she told me she loved me for the first time only the night before we have 1 little argument (my fault) and thats it. i have no idea how she can hold on to this for so long. Stay strong babe no contact is the way forward Hopefully it stays like this and keeps getting better (:
Neall Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 i really enjoyed your story, i hope you keep it that way, you are very strong having such nice ideas, i know you suffered, but you are really trying to be happy ... hope you can achieve that im trying NC too! best of luck!
Author lalalovekay Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 i really enjoyed your story, i hope you keep it that way, you are very strong having such nice ideas, i know you suffered, but you are really trying to be happy ... hope you can achieve that im trying NC too! best of luck! Thank you(: I dont see a point for being sad anymore. If they wants us in their lifes they will put us there if not then no point. I wish you the best of luck. Hopefully its going well for you(; 1
TrblinMN Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 For me, I always assume that the text will never come so that I cannot be upset if it didn't. It's so sad I have to think that way but it is the only way to get by in those early months. Stick to the NC and you will feel you are getting your control back.
Author lalalovekay Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 For me, I always assume that the text will never come so that I cannot be upset if it didn't. It's so sad I have to think that way but it is the only way to get by in those early months. Stick to the NC and you will feel you are getting your control back. Its the way we all have to think. If not we keep hurting ourselves
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