sillyanswer Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 So I went on a first date tonight and all the usual dating things were okay, bordering on mediocre. Not great but not terrible. Had a good time etc. She called an end to the date after just one drink (and "just one drink" was all we had agreed to in advance, so this wasn't entirely unexpected) and then made a comment about what time she had to be at her "next ... meeting" and then stood there for a moment like a deer caught in the headlights. It seemed fairly obvious that she meant her next date. I have nothing against multi-dating but that's slightly more, erm, efficient scheduling than even I try! Some hours later I text her... nice to meet you blah blah... and she texts me back but calls me the wrong name. Oops! Multi-dating 101: Don't muddle up their names. 5
NateC Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Multi-dating...not even once. For one, damn that's expensive. And two...dating isn't a competition. 1
FitChick Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Well, dating IS a numbers game so she is going rather quickly through a lot of numbers. Not cool the way she handled it. You obviously live in a large city. She should have told you ahead of time that she was meeting a friend for dinner later for an "easy out" but if she liked you, could call and cancel. Feel free to use that ploy yourself!
Phoe Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I never have and never will multi-date for a variety of reasons, and THIS reason is now a new one to add to that list!
Star Gazer Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Well, sheesh. She's not juggling well, is she!? I've had lunch and dinner dates in the same day... I feel icky just doing that. I'd never schedule them back-to-back like that!
nescafe1982 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Wow, I never did that one. Ouch. Once, though, when I was on OLD I mentioned in my profile that "I would love to see the Chihuly Exhibit at the local museum." It was an effective way to give men ideas for where to take me... so effective, in fact, that I saw Chihuly's work "for the first time" three times in one week! I even messed up the occupation (but not the name) of my date the third time. Opps. 3
Author sillyanswer Posted August 29, 2013 Author Posted August 29, 2013 Well, sheesh. She's not juggling well, is she!? That's what I thought. I just remembered that she said on the date that she's good at multi-tasking. Perhaps not quite good enough! I've had lunch and dinner dates in the same day... I feel icky just doing that. I'd never schedule them back-to-back like that! Yes, I've done lunch and dinner dates but never two in the same evening.
FitChick Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Her wearing roller skates was a dead giveaway. 3
It's Just Me Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I never have and never will multi-date for a variety of reasons, and THIS reason is now a new one to add to that list! Same here. Even with copious notes, I was always afraid I'd mess up. Couldn't stand the idea of making someone feel like crap if I mixed up names and details. 1
KatZee Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Yes it is. Don't delude yourself. If she likes the next date more than you, you are outta there. I'm fairly certain any sane person would toss her outta there way before she had the chance. She spills that she's going on a date right after, then calls the dude a different name? 1
KungFuJoe Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Look...I'm assuming this was an OLD date, right? If you're gonna swim in the gutter, don't complain about the stench.
KRuss Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 KungfuJoe: So, you say OLD is the gutter, please share where a quality woman (50 yrs kid) might possibly find a quality man...I am ALL EARS and waiting with bated breathe your brilliant list of locals. 1
ChessPieceFace Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Men may as well turn off their emotions to live in this world. Just look at the positive. At least you didn't pay for her dinner.
ForeverHopeful1 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Get used to it. Nearly all women do multidating. Pardon? Lol. I don't know a female who does this. None. Not even one. Where did you get the idea that nearly ALL women do this?!
Author sillyanswer Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 Get used to it. Nearly all women do multidating. I know it's not uncommon, but you're exaggerating a lot. I multi-date myself... that's not a problem. I do get their names right, though! 2
Author sillyanswer Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 Look...I'm assuming this was an OLD date, right? If you're gonna swim in the gutter, don't complain about the stench. If that's what this thread was about I would've been sure to have mentioned it, but thanks for the suggestion.
Treasa Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I think multi-dating is fine as long as you're good at it. She's terrible at it. Her loss. 1
Lani Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Did you call her out on it? And have you heard from her since? 1
Author sillyanswer Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 Did you call her out on it? And have you heard from her since? Only as far as correcting her when she called me the wrong name in a text. "This is sillyanswer not othername." Didn't hear back from her, so I guess she wanted to talk to othername. No big deal... other dates lined up for the weekend. 2
Treasa Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Or she feels embarrassed, which I hope she does but am not counting on.
Author sillyanswer Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 Or she feels embarrassed, which I hope she does but am not counting on. Maybe that's an "and" rather than an "or"! Oh well, the date was only okay, so I'm not exactly crying over this one.
Phoe Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Get used to it. Nearly all women do multidating. ehhhhh, not really. Sure, a good amount do, but not "nearly all". I've never known IRL a woman who does it. Then again, nor have I ever known IRL a woman who had men throwing themselves at her trying to get a date, the way men think most women get, lol. Multi-dating isn't something I think I'd ever be interested in, but people who do it should be smarter about it. The woman OP describes is about the biggest fail of a multidater I've heard of. Hah 1
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