waiting4u Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I'm 39, but I look like I'm in my twenties - or so I've been told. I take good care of my skin, work out, etc. plus I've always looked younger - even when I was in my twenties. I've had a couple of messages on my OLD profile that say "what do you look like now?" I have two pics from three years ago and one that I took two months ago (both explicitly say so). I don't look much different. I also messaged a guy a bit ago and he's 36 but his age cutoff is 38. Wtf? Is 39 the end of the line for attractive single women?
PlumPrincess Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Some guys want kids, others are plain stupid. I guess, that's one of the negative things about looking younger. You don't worry about age, but well, you are aging biologically. Same problem here.
Author waiting4u Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 I'm considering a bathing suit picture . . . 1
PlumPrincess Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 (edited) I'm considering a bathing suit picture . . . Frankly, I don't think that would work either... They will have filtered you out with their search criteria before they ever get a glimpse of your bathing suit. Online dating makes you know way more about men than you will ever want to know... I hang on to the idea that men who do online dating are really dolts with poor social skills and that the men in real life are much better. I'm sure if I tell this to myself every day, one day it will become true... Ok, on a somewhat more serious note, I think online dating does not bring out the best in people, neither in men nor women. I find meetups more interesting. More people and less dating atmosphere. Edited August 28, 2013 by PlumPrincess 1
StanMusial Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I tried OLD and my criteria was 30 to 40. I'm late 30's. People say I look young for my age too. I probably would've dated you. I didn't get any responses so I quit it.
Imajerk17 Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 My age-range is 30--38 but I've hit on women well into their 40s so I don't think that's it. If you look as you do in your avatar you should have your share of takers. Are you messaging men who put "no kids" on their profile? I have dated women with children before, but both times it just happened, and it wasn't ideal due to compatibility issues. I don't think I would ever meet a woman from OLD who has kids.
nescafe1982 Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I have an uncle who at 42 looks like he's in his mid-twenties. Apparently looking much younger as a man is just the worst when trying to meet someone new. He's trying OLD with no real success as well. Edit to add: I think ImAJerk's suggestion is on point. 1
Author waiting4u Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 F I find meetups more interesting. More people and less dating atmosphere. Great idea! I'm going to check that out. I suppose I still qualify for the 20's / 30's group.
Star Gazer Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I also messaged a guy a bit ago and he's 36 but his age cutoff is 38. Wtf? Is 39 the end of the line for attractive single women? I think many/most men have either their age or their age plus 1-3 as their upper limit age wise. Similarly, many women go the other direction, not wanting to date younger men. If you search for men your age or older, you'll most likely fit into their age range quite nicely. 1
clia Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Definitely try meetup.com, and look for groups aimed at people in their 30s and 40s. I'm your age and met my boyfriend that way. It was way better than OLD! 2
Divasu Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Hmm. I'm not sure that Online Dating has age restrictions... Does dating offline have them? Nope. My father met his now girlfriend through it, and he's in his mid-60's. Neat, huh?
fanine Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I gave up on online dating as like you, I look much younger than my age. Im 44 but most people think 34. I have always dated younger men, up to 9 years younger. I did not want to lie about my age but I got no replies from the men in the 30 to 40 age group. It was always men ten plus years older. Even though I stated I was a young looking and thinking 40 year old at the time, into music festivals and gigs etc...
frustr8ed Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I'm 39, but I look like I'm in my twenties - or so I've been told. I take good care of my skin, work out, etc. plus I've always looked younger - even when I was in my twenties. I've had a couple of messages on my OLD profile that say "what do you look like now?" I have two pics from three years ago and one that I took two months ago (both explicitly say so). I don't look much different. I also messaged a guy a bit ago and he's 36 but his age cutoff is 38. Wtf? Is 39 the end of the line for attractive single women? You haven't noticed the expiration date (Best if used by 6/21/2014) on the back of your neck.
StanMusial Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I have an uncle who at 42 looks like he's in his mid-twenties. Apparently looking much younger as a man is just the worst when trying to meet someone new. He's trying OLD with no real success as well. Edit to add: I think ImAJerk's suggestion is on point. I recently had a birthday and when I told people at the office how old I was they were stunned. A couple of the older gals there started flirting with me over the next couple of weeks too LOL. They never looked at me "that way" before. One lady got a little too familiar and lingered when she hugged me. She never hugged me before LOL. Is your uncle never married? Most of my friends say it's because I'm never married with no kids. I saw an old buddy this past weekend and his wife and she was so funny. She was just gushing "Oh my God, you look exactly the same as 10 years ago! You look so good! yadda yadda". She said, "I saw you running in the park a few weeks ago, I was like one of the old moms driving by checking it out and saying uhm hmmm". She's a year younger than me.
nescafe1982 Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Is your uncle never married? Most of my friends say it's because I'm never married with no kids. Never married, was engaged once but that fell through, and he went through a hibernation period in his 30s. He's really only been dating more in the last four years or so. He's a great guy but some patterns seem to follow him around: - Women his age think of him as "boyish" (which is a testament to his looks but his personality is also a bit "younger" too). He has a hard time getting women his age to take him seriously as a man. - Younger women go for him because he's an attractive looking man who has financial stability. But when they discover how old he is, their interest diminishes quickly. - When he dates younger women who are not creeped out by the age difference, he more often than not feels disconnected from them because his life goals (at 42) are significantly different than the 27-32 year old women he's dating. Bottom line, I think not getting hitched might be part of why he *acts* younger than he is. But the looks? that's all genetics! I also look a little younger than I am, which I used to hate but am loving more each year.
soccerrprp Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I'm 39, but I look like I'm in my twenties - or so I've been told. I take good care of my skin, work out, etc. plus I've always looked younger - even when I was in my twenties. I've had a couple of messages on my OLD profile that say "what do you look like now?" I have two pics from three years ago and one that I took two months ago (both explicitly say so). I don't look much different. I also messaged a guy a bit ago and he's 36 but his age cutoff is 38. Wtf? Is 39 the end of the line for attractive single women? ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY NOT! I have met some very attractive 40-something women. 1
sillyanswer Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I'm 39, but I look like I'm in my twenties - or so I've been told. I've dated people your age via OLD. Some of them looked older, some younger. My age begins with a 4. You're not too old.
RedRobin Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 (edited) Don't bother with OLD for DATING. Keep a profile there, maybe, as a backup... but spend most of your time IRL. . Edited August 29, 2013 by RedRobin 2
StanMusial Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Don't bother with OLD for DATING. Keep a profile there, maybe, as a backup... but spend most of your time IRL. . I angrily deleted my OLD page.
RedRobin Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I angrily deleted my OLD page. Meh... I keep one on OkC for friends/activity partners and check it once a week. When they email, I ask them to meet me at the local running group or one of the Meetup activities... I've yet to have any takers. I'm guessing because they really don't do half the shyte they say they do. *shrug* fine with me. At least I'm not wasting an hour of my time drinking coffee with a slob who just wants a f*ckbuddy dressed up as a 'relationship' which is what most of them are trolling for.
Weezy1973 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Stop online dating. The men that are attracted to you without knowing your age will still be there based on how you look now. The worst thing about online dating is that people can filter based on things that may be insignificant in real life. Attraction is important. Age is not.
FitChick Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I'm 39, but I look like I'm in my twenties - or so I've been told. I take good care of my skin, work out, etc. plus I've always looked younger - even when I was in my twenties. I've had a couple of messages on my OLD profile that say "what do you look like now?" I have two pics from three years ago and one that I took two months ago (both explicitly say so). I don't look much different. I also messaged a guy a bit ago and he's 36 but his age cutoff is 38. Wtf? Is 39 the end of the line for attractive single women? I'm much older and have never had a problem finding men, even younger ones. Are you looking to date someone younger? If not, you should have no problem dating someone older. You complain that a guy's cutoff age is 38, but yours seems to be 39. Plenty of men in their forties out there. People get hung up on numbers. Just do what you have done and that is have clear, current photos where you are not looking up into the camera to hide a double chin or sitting with your elbows on your knees to hide a fat stomach.
Art_Critic Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I also messaged a guy a bit ago and he's 36 but his age cutoff is 38. Wtf? Is 39 the end of the line for attractive single women? No.. but he wants kids and is searching with that in mind
kiss_andmakeup Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I will never forget how often I saw something like this in guys' profiles during my brief stint in online dating: Age: 34 Looking for: women who are single Age: 22-32 And sure enough, they'd be messaging 21-year-old (at the time) me. :rolleyes: Not saying women are free of shallowness and silly stipulations when it comes to online dating, but OP asked specifically about age and men. And the answer is yes, lots (I didn't say all) of men in their 30's who are using OLD are trying to meet (significantly younger) women.
mario_C Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Definitely try meetup.com, and look for groups aimed at people in their 30s and 40s. I'm your age and met my boyfriend that way. It was way better than OLD! Yes! Meetup and Eventbrite have quite a few singles mixers as well as activities for anything and everything you might be interested in. Be warned, though, a lot of the OLD shady people attend, so you know...still do both.
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