TrblinMN Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 So I have spoken to my exgf in weeks and haven't seen her in 4 months. She met some guy from California and got engaged 5 months after our breakup. I have been a wreck for months and am starting to get my life moving forward. I haven't really dated anyone and I thought she had moved to CA to be with this guy. I guess I was wrong because.... ... of all the days, I have my first real date with a great gal tonight and I had to run into my ex at the gym today!!!!! WTF?!?!?!?!?!? I thought she moved. Why of all days did I have to see my ex at the gym?!?!?!?!? I didn't talk to her as I just ignored her but I really didn't want to see her with a engagement ring on. Augh!!! Now I can't get that image of her with a ring on out of my head. I'm a wreck right now and I don't want to cancel my date tonight. I mean, what the hell. Why of all days was it today?!?!?
Petunia20 Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 If I were you, I would still go out on the date. you never know what this girl might have to offer you. Put your best face forward and try to enjoy yourself. I'm not sure where you are from but from what I have learned from long distance relationships is that they dont always work. And most of the time one person has something going on in their home state. Call me bitter but from my personal experience, if they're not physically there with you, I cannot see where there is a "relationship". Being from California, I can tell you that a lot of people are not very faithful here. 1
Author TrblinMN Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 Thanks Petunia20. I believe they got engaged before she moved there and I had thought she already moved to CA. The thing is she knows when I go to the gym and she stuck around for some reason. She can go anytime of the day and she decided to go the same time I do. Augh!! I'm still going on the date but if I am this worked up, should I really be dating?!?!? I thought I was ready but after this experience, I'm starting to have doubts about my recovery.
Petunia20 Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 As a woman, I can tell you that sometimes we want to be seen to remind them of us. Although, we have moved on we are curious as to how the ex will react if we are seen. But that really only applies when we still have some type of feelings for them. When we absoultely want nothing to do with them, we avoid them like the plague and even hide. If she doesnt normally go to that gym at that time or that gym period then most likely its to catch you there. Unless she was there with a friend or something. I think you should go out on a date. Its only one date and you can figure out your feelings afterward. If they havent changed after the date then you might not be ready but only you know. I wish I was ready to date or even had a potential out there. Good luck!
Omei Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Just dont bore your date about your ex be delightful and happy dont mention a word after an hour you actually might be enjoying yourself and your date will too thats the best thing. 1
Author TrblinMN Posted August 29, 2013 Author Posted August 29, 2013 The date went really well and she is great. But I kind of wished I was a bit more healthy because I couldn't help but compare her to my ex...which is unfortunate. This girl was completely normal and has her head on her shoulders and her sh*t together which is very hard to find. Who knows how I would be thinking now if I hadn't seen my ex earlier. Petunia20, my first gut instinct was she wanted to be seen and that she was no way going to reach out to me. Probably was hoping that I would text/email/call her...which I didn't. And I am happy with that decision to keep moving forward and kept the date tonight. Thanks for your words, they mean a lot.
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