shLeeeeeeee Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I have been hooking with with this guy for a couple of months. He gets off work around 8 and I will usually go over an hour or so later. Anyways, we talk for hours before we end up having sex- he tells me about his family, how he doesn't talk to his dad anymore, just very personal things. We talk about life and our views, etc etc. I knew that we had a lot of common and I started liking him. I was under the impression that he just wanted to hook up, but then he asked me to go to dinner and a movie. We did and had a great time, went back to his place and we just fell asleep- no sex. I've slept over twice without having sex, all the other times we do. He doesn't rush me in to the bedroom.. it's usually two hours or so later that we go to bed. So after him asking me to go on a date I was confused about what we were. I asked him and he said that he couldn't even think about a relationship right now, he had just broken up with his ex about 5 months ago and was scared of getting hurt again. He also said that that doesn't mean in the future he isn't open to it but doesn't want to think about it right now. I told him that his action were just confusing me because people who are only hooking up don't usually go out on dates and he said he thinks that it is normal. So, the question is-- is he just saying this so I will keep hooking up with him or does he really like me but is scared and doesn't want a relationship now. I don't know if I should end it now before I get hurt.
Philosoraptor Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 He's being honest with you. He likes what you have, but doesn't want to call it a "relationship" yet. If you want to ask him to be exclusive (not sleep with others while you two are getting to know one another), then do so. If this isn't acceptable for you right now, you need to pull back. If you're good with how things are, then set some boundaries and continue to enjoy time together.
Author shLeeeeeeee Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 Is she just saying this because he wants to keep sleeping with me or does he actually like me? Or can guys truly be scared to jump back into a relationship after being hurt so bad by the past relationship.
Sunshine87 Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Ugh, the "I just out of a relationship/I was hurt" yet I'm very happy to have sex with you and enjoy the benefits of being in a relationship is getting very tiring. Jeez, women have been hurt so many times but we are (for the most part) open to receiving love when a good opportunity arises. Maybe I'm sceptic but I don't buy these excuses. 2
Treasa Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I think he was telling you the truth. My female friend and I went out for dinner and a movie a couple of weeks ago, but we're not in a romantic relationship. You were hooking up and having sex with him before the dinner and movie anyway, so it's not like he misled you.
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