llleonidus Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Ive been browsing this site for a while and have got a lot of great advice of you guys such as no contact. Here's my story... Basically ive been seeing this girl for a short space of time only 3 months, things were pretty intense from the get go, ive never met someone like her before we both fell very hard and very fast, even going to egypt together for a week. Thing is my ex has a checkered past as i do i which we were both trying to not let it bother us infact thats how we met at a party through a mutual friend, we started dating and thing have been rocky from the start if im honest, mainly me bringing up the fact that she had slept with 20 odd people and the fact she would use insensitive words when describing ex lovers and just stuff like that. So fast forward on a few weeks and we had another argument when drunk mainly my fault, as soon as i woke up the next morning i apologised, she wasnt having any of it so i left it alone for 3 days then rang her and asked if i could speak to her she agreed and came to see me the next day, she said she still wanted to see me but wanted me to proof that i wasnt going to act like a jerk anymore, which i agreed to even though most of the time it was each other fault 50/50, so over the course of the weekend im trying to get thing back on track with her and she was being very distant which absolutely killed me i mean i wasnt sleeping eating, nothing! so on the monday i phone and ask her whats going on and if she wanted to still see me she started crying saying she wasnt sure if we would work and but that she loved me and i basically started promising to change ( i know big mistake, we both should of said it) so i press her for a yes or no as i need to either make this work or move on due the fact i was a complete mess and she is crying and being very negative, baring in mind she had just came back for a 4 day festival and was depressed from lack of sleep,drinking ect. So then i say ok, i get the message sorry for all the hurt and just generally trying to be mature about it all, that was 10 days ago and i haven't heard so much as a peep out of her, well until last saturday when she went out of town and put pictures of her self looking stunning on facebook, then all of a sudden she turns up at the local at 12:30am and i basically say hi you look nice then she starts going off at me saying how much she loved me and how i messed it all up, then leaves. I grovelled for a week after the break up then gave her an altimatum before going no contact. What im confused about is this how can she tell me she loves me basically for the first time and then completely cut me off, she was by no means perfect in the relationship and i always forgave her. she is very spoilt and her parents and a lot of money, she used to brag about how her ex always came crawling back and i refuse to be one of them. this has been the worse couple of weeks of my life although im starting to feel better as the days go by but still find my self missing her so much, i honestly think she is the one but have to idea how she can be so cold, is she thinking the same thing? need help
Philosoraptor Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 You were clearly not ok with her past and you didn't seem very compatible at all. You both seem to have a lot of maturing to do. I'd continue to not make any contact and work on moving on. The hurt will fade the more you focus on yourself and stop worrying about her.
Chi townD Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Dude, she sounds very immature and, I agree, very spoiled. She sounds like she's used to getting her way. She's used to people conforming to the way that she likes them to be. Sorry dude, barring from hitting women and any verbal abuse or just being an all around douche rocket, a guy shouldn't have to change for anyone. People in a relationship have to take the good with the bad. So, stay NC and most important, BLOCK HER ON FACEBOOK!!! She's seeing that your not bending and crawling back to her. Begging for another chance. That's going to piss her off. So, I speculate the next step for her is to post pics of herself with another guy. I see this coming a mile away. So, do yourself a favor and don't subjugate yourself to it. Stay NC and move on.
Author llleonidus Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 Yo dude thanks for your reply, yea youve hit the nail on the head, very spoilt and used to guys chasing which they always have, im trying my best to move on and not doing so good today, but defo better than last week, i deleted her 2 days and hidden all her friends who also have post pic of her. I know i need to move on, just baffles me how she can not contact me after saying she loved me, ive left the ball in her court now, i mean if i still loved someone and already said i would give them a chance and then ignore them i would make a move at some point to restore contact if that person started to ignore me. I've decided im not going to party and end up in even more of a mess and get some new clothes and start to work on my self as they say.
Chi townD Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Sounds like a damn good plan! Work on yourself! Make positive changes. Travel! See the world! Get new hobbies! Join clubs! Volunteer! STAY BUSY!!
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