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Have you ever been introduced to a guy's parents on a 1st or 2nd date?

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So, after I spent the night at a guy's house...he was having his relatives swing by his place to pick up a gift and whatnots. I can probably say that I have not been introduced to a romantic partner's parents since I was 18, invited to a wedding of the guy I was dating's mom. That's over 8 years

 

So, you can imagine I started to feel a little timid about the whole situation. Not to mention it was his mom and sister. I acted normal, I greeted the mom with a kiss (they're Latin), and had a quick chat with his sister while my buddy was upstairs with his mom.

 

Although I felt special that he felt I was acceptable enough to meet 'mom', I didn't feel ready for it LOL. I stayed for maybe 15-20 minutes once they arrived, but then since I had already spent the night with him and it was turning afternoon time...I excused myself and showed my appreciation for meeting them and gave him a lovey dovey hug (no kissing though)

 

I'm still wondering about the whole interaction. Like what if his mom or sis 'didn't approve' so to speak (do relatives truly have that much power over someone's dating choices)? I also tried hard not to say anything stupid myself that wouldn't do me justice. I know I shouldn't jump to conclusions, but when you meet someone's parents, you never know what values/beliefs they may have...ESPECIALLY when you're dealing with a different ethnicity lol. Part of me feels maybe I didn't stay long enough to make a good impression. They were really nice to me, and no probing questions, but I don't know.

 

I sent him a light, non invasive text asking him about Saturday's interaction...MONDAY. And no response :( I'm just like, what the hell? He was the one who was so adamant about me meeting them, showing me family pictures of his and what not...I didn't ask to meet them, in fact, I tried to excuse myself before they arrived...but he really wanted me to stay.

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i met my exes mother on a first date he took me to her work and she took her necklace off and put it around my neck.....she also pushed the hair out of my eyes....i use to use it as a shield........and I have met nearly all the men i have dated mothers.......since i was a teen......i have never ....had a problem with mothers or parents.....i was once pulled aside by a dates mumj, who told me not to date her son he had issues with aggression and drugs....i was too good..but the truth was......she didnt know my history maybe she would have felt differently about how good she thought i was..........i appreciated her honesty however....and i declined further dates..

 

another foster mother todl em i woudl outgrow her foster son....and i did ......deb

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You spent the night at his house. Was this date #1 or #2?

 

It sounds like all went well; everyone was comfortable. Sounds like your major concern now is that he hasn't contacted you, correct?

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No the earliest I ever met the parents was about a month into the relationship but we got real heavy real fast.

 

The second soonest was about 3 months.

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You spent the night at his house. Was this date #1 or #2?

 

It sounds like all went well; everyone was comfortable. Sounds like your major concern now is that he hasn't contacted you, correct?

 

Well, that was the 2nd time we met in person (I don't really consider us running into each other at the local hangout spot a 'date', no more than running into a guy at the school library a couple times is a date).

 

Yes, my concern is about the contacting part. But...he has texted me once since then apologizing for his demeanor as I was leaving. (there were some emotional personal issues he came forward to me about, and as I left, he was just non-responsive and I couldn't understand why because I was compassionate about it)...But after that I asked about the interaction, which he didn't respond to.

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Eek...not a peep out of him since Monday? Not a good sign, but I'd give it until end of day Wednesday before writing it off completely. Had you discussed plans for a second date?

 

I've never met anyone's parents that early on, possibly with the exception of when I was in high school and the guy was living with mom and dad. Keep in mind, though, that some people consider it no big deal to introduce a new person to family. He may be one of those guys.

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Eek...not a peep out of him since Monday? Not a good sign, but I'd give it until end of day Wednesday before writing it off completely. Had you discussed plans for a second date?

 

Ugh, tell me about it lol. We have discussed plans for a 2nd date when I was with him, but not since then. But you know, it happens all the time though. I'm tired of getting all bent out of shape because someone doesn't call me back as soon as I think they should. How many times do I have to keep going thru this? What can I do?

 

I'm not saying everyone I meet doesn't call me back, but for this scenario, it wouldn't even make sense for him not to. We didn't hookup, I was on my best behavior, he clearly liked me even the next morning, we met twice...I mean, I don't want to just accept a defeat so to speak lol.

 

If there's any reason for all of it, I mean he came forward with all this emotional baggage to me, that I helped talked him through. I don't know if maybe now he felt embarrassed or ashamed or just needs to space from me for a bit after all that or what?

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Okay, that clarifies things a bit. So you spent the night without having sex?

 

Could be that him spilling a lot of emotional baggage has left him a bit embarrassed? Therefore shy about getting in touch or going out again? Just thinking out loud. (And sort of repeating what you just said, LOL. But it was the first thing that came to mind, so maybe you're on to something)

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Nothing like the awkward parent meet. My ex and I ran into her parents when we went for breakfast after a long night of partying and lovin'. That being the first meeting, and with no mental preparation on my part, it was awkward.

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Okay, that clarifies things a bit. So you spent the night without having sex?

 

Could be that him spilling a lot of emotional baggage has left him a bit embarrassed? Therefore shy about getting in touch or going out again? Just thinking out loud. (And sort of repeating what you just said, LOL. But it was the first thing that came to mind, so maybe you're on to something)

 

So what would be the next step to do? I've said most everything I could think of to him, but he's not saying anything back. I don't mind doing a little chasing, but I don't like knocking when nobody is home so to speak

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