kiss_andmakeup Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 (edited) He called and... I ignored. If I were to say I wanted this relationship back and I wanted it to work...what would you advise? I mean put your heart into my situation, feel my feelings (most of everyone wants their ex back)...could it ever really work? Could he ever commit? If walking away wasn't an option...what would you say? How is it not an option??! You're joking, right? Surely you have to be joking. Get a GRIP, girl. Hasn't this ridiculous vicious cycle gone on long enough? Have you noticed that every time you go through it, another layer of hurt gets added? Most recently, the cheating with his ex, on top of all the other BS. I don't even know why I'm posting since anything anyone says is 100% moot to you. You really think that you are powerless to be dragged around at this guy's whim? At his disposal when he wants, and out of his life when he wants. Every time you let him back into your life after he pulls this ****, you are cheapened. Do you realize that? Every time you get back together isn't making your "relationship" stronger...it's not edging you closer to that commitment you desire...it's just showing him just how weak, desperate, and easily-manipulated you are. And all he's going to do is push the limits even further to see just how much garbage you'll put up with. What makes you think he'll suddenly want to commit, when you've let him get away with the ULTIMATE "have your cake and eat it too" experience for the past two years?!?!?! I...I don't even know what to say. I wouldn't find your story quite so exasperating if you weren't obviously highly intelligent. But you are. You're not some immature, moronic dingbat who blindly follows her heart - you're worse: a mature, intelligent, vibrant woman who blindly follows her heart at her own peril and emotional/mental detriment. As Simon so eloquently pointed out, hearts have sh*t for brains. Look, I've been through a miserable breakup - you've read my threads. Prior to what I went through at the end of last year, I had no idea it was even possible to feel that empty, depressed, lifeless, hopeless...you name it, I felt it. Life felt bleak on a good day. But try to remove yourself from the situation and use your freakin' brain. You are young and have EVERYTHING still ahead of you. Stop this nonsense now!! Please! Go NC - real NC, not texting/emailing a few times a week at his beck and call "NC." It is the only way out. Seriously. Edited August 31, 2013 by kiss_andmakeup 4
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