aussietigerwolf Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 not test as in the "how much crap you'll put up with" but... another kind. I thought my boyfriend was trying to find a way to dump me when he was asking all these strange questions about the ex before him. but after I answered them honestly he seemed happy like I'd passed some sort of test so that's why I was wondering.
cowboysmavs Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Maybe he was just having a moment of insecurity, which us males are taught never to show. . But maybe he was not feeling 100% confident at the time and let them come out via those questions. You answered them and squashed those worries(insecurities) so everything relaxed for him. 1
MrCastle Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I don't know if I'd call it testing -- I ask questions I want the answers to. Depending on their answers, I decide whether or not I want to take things further. It's not like some gimmicky, gotcha type of head game. Just questions.
StanMusial Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I don't test... I observe. Seeing how someone handles situations, and how they interact with others is more helpful than axing a few questions. In your specific case, maybe he was just curious, maybe he was concerned about something, who knows. Its a positive sign that he would inquire IMO rather than just wonder about it.
King_Crimson Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I'm not gonna lie, I do test my SOs from time to time. I don't even realize I'm doing it until after... it's kind of like a subconscious thing I guess. Like, if something they did/said made me uncomfortable, I'll ask them questions about to get their perspective and see how it correlates to my beliefs and whether or not it's something I can handle/understand or something I put in the back of my head as one of her characteristics. However, I don't know if this is because I'm a man or if this is just human behaviour, and I wouldn't necessarily do it to have a reason to break up with her, so to answer your question... maybe?
Imported Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I don't test... I observe. Seeing how someone handles situations, and how they interact with others is more helpful than axing a few questions. Same. Not that I won't ask questions, but it's not like I have a list of test for you to get farther. However, I watch behavior with great interest. And you might even think everything is great....because I am not here to change you....and then it's over.
BeholdtheMan Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 not test as in the "how much crap you'll put up with" but... another kind.If by test you mean "try to find out certain things about their GFs and then judge them based on those things"...then of course guys test, all humans have a tendency to be curious and judge
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