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[Jazzie24]

It is this guy i known for a few years at my favorite fast food place we all ways smiled at each other but never said anything so one day he started talking to me like asking me my name and what I am going to school for so one day i went on the internet and found him on a social network and so i registered for the social network and added him as one of my friends so we started chatting back and forth and he asked me for my number i gave it to him between the 2 weeks we were talking he has been very honest with me about being five months clean from smoking weed to moving back in with his parents working 2 jobs and going back to school at 23 at an junior collage and he's been single for a year the only thing that was a red flag for me is that he was trying to take me on the date on the first week i met him i said yes and I later changed my mind because i am in the social work program at a university and i had something to do so the day before i counseled and he became very aggressive claiming i am lying and continued to be very persistent in taking me out another red flag for me is that I think he moves too fast and i remember he told me he is a hopeless romantic and and another red flag is for 2 whole days i didn't talk or text him back because i was too sick but by the third day i checked my phone and he sent me a lot of text telling me what he do what is wrong but before i replied back it was an unknown text telling me hey girl what's up i said who is this and out of nowhere he text me back saying why want you talk to me what's your problem then i text him back and told him that I was sick and was that him playing on the phone he say no right after that a person text me back from the other # claiming i got the wrong # so i grew very suspicious

My mother had a bad feeling about him she feels he can't be trusted and obsessive so she maid me get on the phone and tell him i have a boy friend because she feels if i just break it off with him in another way be will still be persistent towards our relationship so i did an i was so crushed because even if he was very persistent or act like a hopeless romantic throughout the 2 weeks i caught feelings for him because me and him had a lot in common and i felt like i known him my whole life and he liked me, excepted me,and loved me for who I was. The only thing I didn't like is how he talked to my mother and the tone he used when he was on the phone when she was telling him i had a boy friend. So since then we haven't contact each other and broke up. I am torn and confused because apart of me feel my mother is right he might be dangerous and obsessive because he so persistent and he is moving way to fast and falling way too fast and i don't have time for a relationship because i am busy with the social work program and need to stay focus and since he is planning on going to the same university i am going to next semester if we destine to be then it will happen. I trust my mother and her judgement because she never steered me wrong and every thing she say come out to be right. Another part of me feeling bad for lying and breaking it off because what if he wasn't dangerous and we was destine to be together and I blew it and he will never know the truth that i never cheated on him. Next time i see him he will be happy with someone else. Another part of me also feel that I maybe just guilty for lying and hurting his feelings and when i was talking to him it was out if desperation and i was just settling because i am 24 and never been in a relationship. So what should I do? Can you please give me some advice.

Edited August 28, 2013 by Jazzie24
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[Jazzie24]

Can Someone please give me some advice

[DM42]

Just from reading what you wrote I would say get back together only if you want to walk on eggshells for the rest of the time you are together. I doubt that you want to live like that so just move on and try and forget about him.