Brown-Eyez Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I can't believe it but you guys called it correctly! He just texted me again, this time a whole message Basically saying hi and asking how I'm doing... I so want to text him back like right now! But what the hell can I say except hi back??
JDPT Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I hope you deleted his message already and remembered all the advice rendered. 5
Author Brown-Eyez Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 I hope you deleted his message already and remembered all the advice rendered. Nooooo! I wanna make this work between us (at this give it a shot and see if there is something really there, our break was super premature).
JDPT Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Delete it, take the battery out of your phone and put it in your drawer, it's for your own good.
barky2 Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Duh. Of course he did. Now relax. Take a breath. Go for a walk. Do something. Do NOT REPLY. Barky 2
Simon Phoenix Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Nooooo! I wanna make this work between us (at this give it a shot and see if there is something really there, our break was super premature). More reason to delete the message. 2
dearsuzan Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Delete it. Make him work for it and if he isn't willing to work for it - then you have your answer. 1
Jazzie24 Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 But can some one give me some advice on my thread in breaks and breaking up called So Don't Know
Soat Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Nooooo! I wanna make this work between us (at this give it a shot and see if there is something really there, our break was super premature). Oh good grief. Get some pride. 1
Chi townD Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 I can't believe it but you guys called it correctly! What do you mean you can't believe it? We know what the hell we're talking about up in here! Okay, now that you know we're calling it correctly, then you need to listen to folks again. You got the "worst breadcrumb ever" with him texting you a frickin comma. He was fishing. To see if you would respond to a simple little comma from him. You didn't bite. Now he's using different bait. Hi! How are you doing? is not "I'm sorry I miss you and I need to come back" Nothing in there indicates any of that, does it? Guess what? A telemarketer asked me "Hi! How are you!" See? There's no substance with that text whatsoever. If you were in a relationship with him, then he knows where you live. What's stopping him from coming over to see you? 6
Author Brown-Eyez Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 Delete it. Make him work for it and if he isn't willing to work for it - then you have your answer. but how do I make him work for it?? Shouldn't I at least respond to let him know that I still am interested? and ok, not tonight, but tomorrow morning maybe? i really like this guy
Soat Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 but how do I make him work for it?? Shouldn't I at least respond to let him know that I still am interested? and ok, not tonight, but tomorrow morning maybe? i really like this guy So after all the pain He caused you, you're going to go running disparate back to him. Btw he didn't say anything. Geesh 2
Author Brown-Eyez Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 Oh good grief. Get some pride. Hey I got pride, I haven't responded...yet But he is reaching out to me, I hate to just ignore a gesture of good will.
Soat Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Hey I got pride, I haven't responded...yet But he is reaching out to me, I hate to just ignore a gesture of good will. Wow that's some deep meaningful reach out. How are you. After that super meaningful comma message. The guys a complete ass. Seriously. This will end with more pain sooner or later if you re engage. 1
Author Brown-Eyez Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 Ignore. Ignore. Ignore. If he wants it, he'll come get it. If not, then no amount of you texting him back would have made it work anyway. Stand your ground. Do not reply. Ok, let's say I do ignore his message, what's to say that he just realizes that I no longer care for him and doesn't reach out again. I lose the small opportunity I might have here (at least that's how it feels to me).
Author Brown-Eyez Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 Wow that's some deep meaningful reach out. How are you. After that super meaningful comma message. The guys a complete ass. Seriously. This will end with more pain sooner or later if you re engage. Is there really no way around that? am I really in such delusion that he might still care for me and is just being awkward in expressing it?
Chi townD Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Hey I got pride, I haven't responded...yet But he is reaching out to me, I hate to just ignore a gesture of good will. Or it could be a gesture of him pulling on the leash to see if the dog is still there. He pulled and discovered the dog is gone. He's looking to see where the dog went. (Not calling you a dog per se, just a metaphor) 3
Simon Phoenix Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Hey I got pride, I haven't responded...yet But he is reaching out to me, I hate to just ignore a gesture of good will. It's not good will. It's a breadcrumb. I say "Hi, how are you?" to the clerk who checks me out at the grocery store. It means nothing. 3
Author Brown-Eyez Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 Oh honey, this is not a gesture of goodwill. This is fishing. What the peeps here on LS are doing? THAT'S a gesture of goodwill. sorry to be so dense, but fishing for what? He knows I care about him what else might he be looking for?
Simon Phoenix Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 am I really in such delusion that he might still care for me and is just being awkward in expressing it? Yes (10 characters)
Soat Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 It's not good will. It's a breadcrumb. I say "Hi, how are you?" to the clerk who checks me out at the grocery store. It means nothing. Lol he is looking for an ego stroke. I got it! Text him back a ";" tomorrow lol 4
Author Brown-Eyez Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 Or it could be a gesture of him pulling on the leash to see if the dog is still there. He pulled and discovered the dog is gone. He's looking to see where the dog went. (Not calling you a dog per se, just a metaphor) ok, so if the dog is still there, I'm sorry, but given how emotional I am right now, it's hard to see what's wrong with that. I care about him why can't I re-engage? My perspective is quite limited, I've just gone 18 days with no contact, and I miss him alot, I'd like to get back together with him and he's finally reached out. He wants to know how I'm doing (he probably misses me too) what am I waiting for??
Soat Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 ok, so if the dog is still there, I'm sorry, but given how emotional I am right now, it's hard to see what's wrong with that. I care about him why can't I re-engage? My perspective is quite limited, I've just gone 18 days with no contact, and I miss him alot, I'd like to get back together with him and he's finally reached out. He wants to know how I'm doing (he probably misses me too) what am I waiting for?? How about think how much f***ing pain he put you in??
Author Brown-Eyez Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 Lol he is looking for an ego stroke. I got it! Text him back a ";" tomorrow lol very funny! but why should I be so hostile, I like him.
Author Brown-Eyez Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 How about think how much f***ing pain he put you in?? yeah, but I did that to myself by over-reacting to his distancing...I see that more as my problem than something he intentionally caused. other than his silent treatment he has been reasonable with me.
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