Is it meant to be?

[Zachblack]

My girlfriend and I of a year and a half recently broke up because of fighting and things not working. A week later we met up and I told her everything I realized I wasn't doing and giving her in our relationship and apologized for it and ****. She could tell I was legitimately and honestly ready to be a better person. She was thrilled because I hit the nail right on the head. For the rest of the day things felt amazing, butterflies in our stomachs and all that. She said she didn't want to rush into it and that we should wait a week to make sure this is right.

 

So we did, and things didn't go so well. She broke up with me "for now." She said that she was really happy about me learning more about myself, but for things to really develop and us to grow its best for us to be apart right now. She also said that she doesn't want to be in a relationship for her last year of college if she's not totally sure that we are meant to be. We have never been (intimately or in a serious relationship) with anyone else and she feels she's too young to dedicate herself to me. If she was a year older, she said, she would be willing to work with me.

 

We said goodbye after a lot of tears and she comes back to my car right before I leave to say she's really not sure about this. I told her if it's meant to be, we'll find each other again.

 

I contacted her for one last time a few days after. Saying that it'll be really hard to be in contact with her while we see other people and that I don't just want to be her fallback option. I wanted her to honestly tell me if she thought this was over or if she was serious about us being together in the future. She replied that she likes to think of it as a bye for now - she insisted again and again that she's doing this for us to grow and really work on her own goals and find out what she really wants out of me or a partner, not to find someone better.

 

It's been about a week since then and I am so confused. I miss her so badly, especially because our relationship was really great up until about the last two months. I'm not sure when I should reach out to her - I'm thinking maybe in a few months. I'm honestly trying to just focus on my life right now but she was such a big part of it and I just don't feel ready to give up my feelings for her.

 

Anyone ever experience anything similar or have any advice? Thanks a lot guys

[Jdogg577]

I would let it sit for a while. It sounds to me like she legitimately still has feeling for you and was pretty serious about finding out what she wants. It's hard for some women to settle down with one man having never dated anyone else. Maybe in time she'll be able to tell you if you are the one for her or not.

[Jazzie24]

All i have to say if its meant to be its meant to be just live your life don't wait on her either. Your story isn't as complicated as mines read my thread under between-mother-breakup and you will become more confused than ever