Author 365daysgone Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 You are going to leave us hanging?? What did she say? Me: you need to come over tomorrow night Her: why? Me: to make up for tonight Her: what were we gonna d tonight? Me: hang out... Her: lol I'm just teasing Me: are you? Later on... Me: then come over tomorrow night Her: whatcha wanna do? Me: what do you wanna do? Her: anything Me: great. Me too. So come over. Her: like what? Me: I'm getting some signals from you right now so just tell m what you want. Her: what signals? Me: wink faces. Seems like your implying something here... Her: nope Me: ok. So come over to hang out Her: I will ... Don't worry Her: miss me already Keep in mind I was talking like this just to figure out her intentions. I guess I did right? I just cannot believe that a 21 year old girl that works with children that has zero hint towards looking or sex on her profile on a dating website does this. Plays guys like this. Like...what?!
Skyraider829 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 She flaked. lol Boy, ain't that a surprise...
Skyraider829 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Keep in mind I was talking like this just to figure out her intentions. I guess I did right? I just cannot believe that a 21 year old girl that works with children that has zero hint towards looking or sex on her profile on a dating website does this. Plays guys like this. Like...what?! If she plays people like that, I would be a little reluctant to go for a friendship with her. She may just want to freak, then drop it. So if that's her intent, be aware of it.
Author 365daysgone Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 I know I know. But I am just killing myself to figure out what the **** she is doing here. Even if she wante sex, why wouldn't she have accepted earlier invites from me and tried to get me back to my house? I'm showing up at her house Sunday afternoon and am not even confirming with her beforehand cause I know she will not be expecting this. But I just can't get why a 21 year old student who again has NO indication at all on her page is doing this. Attention??
Lansing Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 From her messages/your texts it sounds like she agreed to come over tonight no?? Are you decent looking? Like, I know you have social anxiety but maybe she is still attracted to you and wants to see where it goes?
clia Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I think she's totally playing you and this is all a big waste of your time.
Skyraider829 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I know I know. But I am just killing myself to figure out what the **** she is doing here. Even if she wante sex, why wouldn't she have accepted earlier invites from me and tried to get me back to my house? I'm showing up at her house Sunday afternoon and am not even confirming with her beforehand cause I know she will not be expecting this. But I just can't get why a 21 year old student who again has NO indication at all on her page is doing this. Attention?? Attention could be the problem. This girl seems to wishy-washy for anything.
Author 365daysgone Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 From her messages/your texts it sounds like she agreed to come over tonight no?? Are you decent looking? Like, I know you have social anxiety but maybe she is still attracted to you and wants to see where it goes? Dude, she flaked last night. Said she was sick. Someone tell me what the **** is happening here. She flakes 5 times, then meets at my house, immediately texts me saying "thanks for tonight :)", we set up anther date at my place the next day, she seems excited, and then flakes again. She gave me her address where se lived with her parents, told me where she works, etc. then the sarcastic sexual texts last night. What the **** is happening? I hate to say it but she isn't even good looking. A 6 at best. Her profile suggests nothing about looking of sex, and I ran a search on the dating site...there's hardly any guys in the area within 15 miles...she can't be ****ing with this many guys.
Skyraider829 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Dude, she flaked last night. Said she was sick. Someone tell me what the **** is happening here. She flakes 5 times, then meets at my house, immediately texts me saying "thanks for tonight :)", we set up anther date at my place the next day, she seems excited, and then flakes again. She gave me her address where se lived with her parents, told me where she works, etc. then the sarcastic sexual texts last night. What the **** is happening? I hate to say it but she isn't even good looking. A 6 at best. Her profile suggests nothing about looking of sex, and I ran a search on the dating site...there's hardly any guys in the area within 15 miles...she can't be ****ing with this many guys. Here's my opinion: You've got a weird chick on your hands. Maybe she has some social issues that she isn't being upfront about. Has she given you any indications that she may not be socially skillful in some respects?
Author 365daysgone Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 Not that I know of but you can admit it is a pretty messed up story right? Like what is hr game? Is this what it means when guys say she's playin them? Or is this more insane??
Skyraider829 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Not that I know of but you can admit it is a pretty messed up story right? Like what is hr game? Is this what it means when guys say she's playin them? Or is this more insane?? Her game is not worth playing man. I've never been "played" by a woman, but if this is a form of being played, screw it. Aren't you fed up about this yet...?
Author 365daysgone Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 I'm just get. I don't get why she did this. All I am looking for are friends. I don't know what to do no dot know how to meet people. And this is why I've never tried because every time someone comes into my life, they use me. But yes. I am done with it. Everything she says is bull****. I just don't get why she did it. It doesn't make any sense.
HEY2147 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Dont waste your time trying to figure it out some people are all about dem Bullshet and she is all about bullshet. Why dont you do cold approach to get dates? Do you want help on learning how to do a cold approach to women?
Author 365daysgone Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 Śure you can tell me how but keep in mind I do have social anxiety.
HEY2147 Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Well I too used have it (but for girls) but a friend of mine showed me these videos and it helped a lot I'll give you the link to the ones i think you want Scared of Talking to Girls? Become a Beast - YouTube How to Approach a Girl - YouTube How to Text a Girl - YouTube How to Speak with Confidence - YouTube These videos helped me as a guideline on what to do or what should i do and if you want you can check out their other videos If you want to pay twenty dollars for a more advance videos that talk into details about approaching and rejections and many other stuff then go to this website Simple Pickup - Project GO also what i did to help me is to pretend that your an actor and your role is a confident person and your scene is x or y go! Try using it dude you got nothing to lose
Author 365daysgone Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 Same stuff I've read online man. The social anxiety is what holds me back. I need to beat this before I could ever attempt cold approaching someone.
HEY2147 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Then I suggest Cognitive behavioral therapy it specializes with anxiety disorders my cousin went to one and hes says it was worth every penny
Author 365daysgone Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 I am trying that. I am using the Dr. Richards program right now. It will take about 4 months though.
Author 365daysgone Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 UPDATE: So I've continued texting this girl just for when I'm bored. Whatever. She was trying to get me to go to some local town fair last night. Borderline begging me go I which I thought was odd. Then this morning just randomly texts me saying she wants to kiss me. We have discussed what her motives were when she came over 3 weeks ago and she said she wanted to cuddle and kiss. Anyways so I told her to come over tonight and I had a strong feeling se was going to show this time because she seemed pretty anxious for a kiss. She actually showed up again and we're sitting on the couch talking. Kind of. She has even worse conversational skills than I do. She starts playfully trying to get her keys back from me and leaning over...a lot of physical contact. After like 40 minutes of this ****, she says she has to go. This goes on for another 10 minutes. By this point, Im holding her hand. She says she really has to go and I just finally bring the elephant into the room and say but we haven't kissed yet. She says "well maybe I was lying about that". This goes on and on of me sayin "I don't think you were" and her saying she was. I had a hundred oppurtunities to lean over and kiss her...unfortunately, having never kissed a girl before, I ruin those chances. She finally gets up an walks to the door with me and says "ok now I came here for a kiss", so I lean in and give a quick kiss. She says "thanks". I say "that sounded like a sarcastic thanks". She says she wants another. So I gove anotger kiss, a little longer. I actually thought the second was pretty good. She says "I'm never coming back here" in a joking way. I say "why" she says she's kidding and heads up the stairs. Blah blah blah. So the mystery has been solved. You guys were right. She flaked 5 times because she didn't think I was someone who just wanted to hook up because I wanted to meet for a coffee. As soon as I suggested a movie at my place, she jumps on the opportunity. She makes advances, hoping I take the bait. Weeks later when she admits her motives and I agree, she comes back. What a skank. Honestly, part of me hopes she does come on back over so that I can use her for practise.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 UPDATE: So I've continued texting this girl just for when I'm bored. Whatever. She was trying to get me to go to some local town fair last night. Borderline begging me go I which I thought was odd. Then this morning just randomly texts me saying she wants to kiss me. We have discussed what her motives were when she came over 3 weeks ago and she said she wanted to cuddle and kiss. Anyways so I told her to come over tonight and I had a strong feeling se was going to show this time because she seemed pretty anxious for a kiss. She actually showed up again and we're sitting on the couch talking. Kind of. She has even worse conversational skills than I do. She starts playfully trying to get her keys back from me and leaning over...a lot of physical contact. After like 40 minutes of this ****, she says she has to go. This goes on for another 10 minutes. By this point, Im holding her hand. She says she really has to go and I just finally bring the elephant into the room and say but we haven't kissed yet. She says "well maybe I was lying about that". This goes on and on of me sayin "I don't think you were" and her saying she was. I had a hundred oppurtunities to lean over and kiss her...unfortunately, having never kissed a girl before, I ruin those chances. She finally gets up an walks to the door with me and says "ok now I came here for a kiss", so I lean in and give a quick kiss. She says "thanks". I say "that sounded like a sarcastic thanks". She says she wants another. So I gove anotger kiss, a little longer. I actually thought the second was pretty good. She says "I'm never coming back here" in a joking way. I say "why" she says she's kidding and heads up the stairs. Blah blah blah. So the mystery has been solved. You guys were right. She flaked 5 times because she didn't think I was someone who just wanted to hook up because I wanted to meet for a coffee. As soon as I suggested a movie at my place, she jumps on the opportunity. She makes advances, hoping I take the bait. Weeks later when she admits her motives and I agree, she comes back. What a skank. Honestly, part of me hopes she does come on back over so that I can use her for practise. I don't understand what this is all about. You should have just banged her and lost your virginity.
Author 365daysgone Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 ...right cause I'm supposed to go from never kissing a girl to instantly feeling comfortable having sex with one.
deathandtaxes Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 You talk about the kiss before the kiss? Hrm. Just go in for the kiss!! 2
Author 365daysgone Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 Alright guys. Read the whole thread. I have social anxiety. This was a huge step for me.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 ...right cause I'm supposed to go from never kissing a girl to instantly feeling comfortable having sex with one. Get out of your comfort zone. Push yourself. The only reason you have social anxiety is because you failed to push yourself earlier in life (like the rest of us did). Do you ever want to have sex? Or do you want to be the 40 year old virgin?
deathandtaxes Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Good job! Now don't be all talking about slipping the **** in before you slip it in, mate! It takes all the mystery out of it.
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