styloboy Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 About a month ago a week before our anniversary my boyfriend broke up with me because he said things had gotten "weird". He gave me no explanation besides that after having been through a horrible time in our lives for 6 months. I didn't talk to him for a day but then we got talking again and we spend time on and around our anniversary. He decided to buy me presents for our anniversary and we were kissing and cuddling and holding hands again when walking down the street. After about two weeks of that I started a conversation saying that what was happening was not fair and was just confusing me, he said at the time he was happy being friends after which I stopped talking to him. I didn't talk to him however he send me a few messages and shared some things on my Facebook wall and tagged me in some things on Facebook and was asking common friends how I was doing. He sent me messages like "I am here to talk if you want to, however if you need some time that is ok too" I didn't engage with him till last weekend when I knew we would see each other because we were going to be at the same party. I was going to give back his things then and give back the presents he bought me since we broke up however with some drinking we ended up hooking up on the Saturday night and on the Sunday we actually spent a day as a couple. We went out for breakfast, were holding hands, cuddling and all those things. And of course we had to run in to a friend of mine. We have been talking for the past days however I told him that we need to actually have a conversation tonight. I am just so confused as to what is going on and it is killing me. I just don't know if going back to NC will be the solution as neither of us seems to actually be willing to give up on this relationship.
hellischrome Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Well, "happy being friends". So it sounds like he gave up, yes. And in case you are wondering why he does things like holding hands: because he is comfortable with you, and used to you, and probably afraid of being alone (this last one not necessarily). All of these things mean he doesn't love you, otherwise he wouldn't be happy to be just friends. Been there before, get out of his way while you still can.
Author styloboy Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 Well, "happy being friends". So it sounds like he gave up, yes. And in case you are wondering why he does things like holding hands: because he is comfortable with you, and used to you, and probably afraid of being alone (this last one not necessarily). All of these things mean he doesn't love you, otherwise he wouldn't be happy to be just friends. Been there before, get out of his way while you still can. Exactly what I thought. However since we broke up he kept telling me he loved me until I asked him to stop. And he keeps telling me and friend how I am one of the most amazing people he has ever met and he misses me.
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