hannah91 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Seriously beating myself up right now. I was with my ex for 5 months, it became very intense quickly and we both said we were the loves of eachohers lives etc. We broke up with her saying she was 'going against her feelings for me but she felt there must be someone more right for her' fairly out of the blue. She told me she didn't know if we were compatible but couldn't give me any real reasons. I'd been NC for a month when I stupidly broke NC at a weak moment. We spoke over text and she asked if I was seeing anyone, I said no. She went on to tell me that she is already seeing someone. She asked how I was doing and I stupidly told her that I was doing fine but still missed her a lot and was still confused by her decision. I've basically fed her ego and pushed her further away be seeming totally undesirable. She says she's 'happier now'. I've been struggling to give up on hope of her coming back to me because of all the things she said that filled my head with the idea that we had both found 'the one'. Can anyone give me any insight into what could have happened? Why one minute I was the love of her life and we were so right for eachother and the next she's happier without me. Anyone experienced this? Did they ever creep back?
barky2 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 It doesn't matter why it happened It did. Now you have to face it man. Who knows why You need to stay in no contact. That's a prime example why you don't break it. She may be putting on a front about her being happy...you don't know. Do not contact her again. Do they crawl back? Sure. But what your going to take second best? Fug that. Don't contact her again....no IF'S AND'S OR BUT'S. I've dealt with the same thing. Now go out and have some fun with your life and don't sulk around. Barky 1
JDPT Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I'm sorry but I quiet honestly don't believe you were "the love of her life." I on the other hand believe that she realized for your sake and hers at an early stage in the relationship that she was not in it 100% and made a decision to pave her own way, sadly without you. We often look for perfection in a relationship. I, throughout personal experience and relationship discovered that there is not such thing, perfection is nonexistent at least in relationships. However, we strive day in and day out to have a harmonious relationship with our loved one where we can both enjoy each other and live life in a peaceful manner. She may have spooked herself out by looking for perfection and the second she felt that the relationship wasn't meeting her expectations she called it quits. But honestly at this point it's irrelevant for you to analyze what occurred, leave the past where it belongs and more forward and embark in your recovery process. 1
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