thr1986 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I'm 26 and I'm an attractive guy. Ive included a picture in case this helps you guys paint a picture. http://s6.postimg.org/jfrdc8qz5/photo_9.jpg I like old fashioned things, nostalgia is huge for me. If I could, i'd travel back to the 1920's or some other era. Chivialry is important to me, I want to court girls, not go to a loud crowded bar and lie my way into bed with someone. I just feel so detached from my generation ALL THE TIME. Well.....I met someone who I swear was PERFECT for me. We fell in love quickly and after 11 months of long distance she moved accross the country to be with me. Things were perfect, she had her own place, we were seeing eachother everyday, ect.... She had been married and divorced TWO times by the time she was 25, which I learned about 6 months into our relationship. She blamed the guys, claiming both guys treated her horribly (I wont get into the details) and made her self out to sound like a victim so I gave her the benefit of the doubt knowing I woudlent ever act as those guys did and I let it go. I just loved her too much. There was almost nothing that could make me stop loving her. Well.....one day I overheard her on the phone with a friend back home from where she moved from and she was telling this friend a number of things about me that were complete fabrications. She was painting this picture out that she was a victim, similar to how she made herslef look when she told me about her Ex husbands (two, plural. I know....) I calmly sat down with her and asked her what she was talking about, knowing that there was NO explanation for it because we both knew what she was saying was totally made up. She had no explanation. She tried very hard to not talk about it actually. About a week went by where I told her I needed some time to think. She tried to turn it around on me and then told me she needed to think too....manipulative, i know.... In the end, with the help of my family and friends, I told her it was over and then went to No contact. I ignored her efforts to reach out to me over the period of the next week. She woudl text me telling me how much she missed me and that she loved me, ect....but I did not answer and I mailed her the 2 articles of clothing she left at my house. its been almost 4 months now, she has moved back to the city where shes from (I only know because I saw a picture of her on instagram out with friends back in her home city). I know she is clearly crazy, and has issues (I think perhaps she was sexually abused - based on some other things I wont get into here) but Damnit I STILL love the girl that I fell in love with. That feeling, the way she made me feel, the excitement I had about life, Jesus I've never felt like that before and now its like im back to life alone feeiling detached. The way we met was so unusual I almost feel like something like that could never happen again, and she was such an amazing person and also so unusual like me (aside from her obvious issues internally). I get emotional when I think about her. I Loved her with everything I had and there is nothing I would not have done for her. I'm a romantic, hopeless romantic a heart and I know my emotions get the best of me sometimes. but damnit I dont know what to do. I know shes not right, but I just want to be with someone like her without the flaws. I want to plan dates, suprise her with flowers, give eachother gifts, ect.... I just need that in life and without it im so overly hard and critical of myself. Since we broke up I have moved to a new city, taken a promotion (my career is my primary focus aside from love) This is a rant I know...but any words of advice will help more than you think it will. I feel very alone, very detached, and just go to work and come home and feel alone every day. Its starting to take its toll on me. Please help me.
TrblinMN Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I don't know all the details but from my experience Iwould say that you are probably best not being with her and keeping telling yourself that over and over. I would even say it out loud to yourself. You are going to have a long road a head of you and taking the right steps cam only help. Women le that can and will screw with you for a very long time if they can. Good luck in your journey to move forward.
Author thr1986 Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 I am over her. What I'm trying to say is that I just miss having someone in my life. From a quality of person standpoint, im a monumentally better person. Everything from the family I come from to my progress in life to my moral compass makes me a better person. She came from an untraditional family dynamic, never graduated from college, got married and divorced to older guys twice in her late teens early twenties and works retail, just by chance as its a job she randomly got. Not to sound like an a** but from a success standpoint, class of person and leverage for a brighter future, I'm in a much better position. I'm just lonely emotionally most likely because I am in a new city alone and have not met anyone yet. I have faith though, I am dating. I'm just very picky as I explained in my first post
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