waiting4u Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Why not? I mean, what is there to say? Lots of awkward stuff. It just gives the scorned person an opportunity to freak out and be like "didn't I mean anything to you ever" et cetera. Why not avoid the drama?
nescafe1982 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Because it feels horrible to be the one who is abandoned with no explanation, and we're all worth a little consideration? Breaking up with someone is a little like firing an employee. They have a right to hear it straight-up, and they have every right to be pissed off/hurt, etc. But breaking up with someone well is an important responsibility and needs to be learned. To be clear: I'm not talking about disappearing after 1-2 dates, but after a relationship is established. That's just gutless IMO. 4
Author waiting4u Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 (edited) Well, not what about a casual thing - a few months - a little sex. No promises. I even dropped hints along the way like "I'm commitment-phobic" and "I have intimacy issues." Also - having "the talk" just provides a space for things to get ugly. He freaks. I'm not nice. And it all goes downhill from there. Edited August 27, 2013 by waiting4u
nescafe1982 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Well, not what about a casual thing - a few months - a little sex. No promises. I even dropped hints along the way like "I'm commitment-phobic" and "I have intimacy issues." If you have intimacy issues, navigating the break-up the right way is really an excellent way to confront those issues, is it not? I firmly believe that if I respect someone, they deserve a real face-to-face meeting... awkward or no. We can all manage that.
sillyanswer Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Why not? because it's a very selfish way to behave.
bentleychic Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Because it's selfish, cowardly, cruel, disrespectful...need I go on? 2
bentleychic Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Not to mention, the other person may just sit there worrying about your health and safety if you just drop off the planet.
SugarLips72 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 It is really immature and cowardly to blow someone off and just disappear without really ending it the right way. Most people have a conscience and would feel ****ty doing that. It's childish and high school. Be the grown up here and if you are too chicken **** to end it to his face, send him a text. You really would not mind this being done to you? 1
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