thatgirl5 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 (edited) So me & my LDR boyfriend were together for 10 months. Everything was fine but he was stressing lately over family issues, his mom having cancer and him trying to pay off the bills to move back to my state. We were not having issues, we texted while he was at work here and there and when he was off work. We shared a 3 hour difference, but he still managed to make time to talk, skype..etc. He broke up with me a week ago, it was out of the blue... His excuse was that he had to work longer hours to pay off his moms hospital bill and that he was so stressed out and we wouldn't have time to talk anymore and that he knows it was going to hurt but that breaking up was the right thing to do but that he still wanted to be in my life, because he still cared. I did not plead or begged but i told him okay that i would let him go because I could not be with someone who did not want to be with me. Although i pretended to be okay with it, i wasn't. I deleted him off my social media pages, FB & IG and couple hours later he textd me asking me why i was deleting them? That i probably would regret not having them anymore if we were to get back together when things calmed down (WTF?) The next day (it was his birthday, i kno i kno does not give me an excuse) but my retarted self txted him saying happy birthday and he responded saying thanks, after i sayd imy & he responded with an " I miss you too" conversation ended. Havnt spoke to him till today, a week from now. Ive felt like crap all week but i tried to make my time worthwhile, i am not gona lie i stalk him online and i know i shouldnt but i can't help it! I also did notice on instagram that he kept making his profile private and then unprivate. He also took down some pictures he had tagged me in and deleted the captions but left a couple of my pictures and conversations on his page that said things like "I love you baby" BAD habit, it does hurt people, i am trying to avoid doing that....anyways, an hour ago i txted him sayin that he probably did not want to talk to me but that I just wanted to let him know that he was thought of.....& guess what? no response.... I can't tell wether or not he is hurtn from it but due to my worse habit, stalking ive seen him post quotes about how lessons in life this, lessons in life that...Now am i wrong for still having hope? I loved this man, we've had our fights but nothing extreme and the breakup was really out the blue and caught me off guard...the pain sucks but im back to square ONE of NC, for my own health. Any inputs are appreciated. Edited August 27, 2013 by thatgirl5
justwhoiam Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 You did the right thing. He made a decision for you to break up with you. He didn't make a decision WITH you. Had it been me, I would have preferred he had talked to me about his being unable to talk and let me choose if I was able to stand minimal communication for a few months. Out of love, I wouldn't have made any fuss about it. But the way he broke up with you didn't leave any room for any further discussion. I would have blocked him anywhere and stopped contact with a final message, stating my position: I would have preferred we could have made a decision together on what was best for us, but I was only given the walking papers. I now can't be friends with you, as I still obviously have strong feelings for you. Good luck and all the best to your mom. Now try to move on.
Author thatgirl5 Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 You did the right thing. He made a decision for you to break up with you. He didn't make a decision WITH you. Had it been me, I would have preferred he had talked to me about his being unable to talk and let me choose if I was able to stand minimal communication for a few months. Out of love, I wouldn't have made any fuss about it. But the way he broke up with you didn't leave any room for any further discussion. I would have blocked him anywhere and stopped contact with a final message, stating my position: I would have preferred we could have made a decision together on what was best for us, but I was only given the walking papers. I now can't be friends with you, as I still obviously have strong feelings for you. Good luck and all the best to your mom. Now try to move on. Thank you for your honest response. Well since i broke NC today, i felt that i should let him know how i felt about the situation and how he didn't talk to me about it instead made a choice for himself and not together like you've stated. Again, bad idea, BUT i feel closure because he did not respond but I know he reaad the message. But whatever, gota move on right? I keep trying to picture my life bfre him, its a blurr but ill get there. Thanks Justwhoiam 2
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