Jadedbyluv Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 (edited) I'm 28 years old. I've dated a lot but have only had one serious relationship. After my last relationship, I know I have a huge guard up. I dated one guy earlier this year but there was no real chemistry. Soon after things ended, I decided to work on me and do my own thing. Unexpectedly, I met another guy. I wasn't even going to bother but he seemed like a nice guy. We went on a date, and we had a great connection. I was still pretty hesitant because I hate dating. I hate feeling vulnerable and the idea of getting hurt. I went with it, and we've been dating over a month. I feel different with this guy, and I can say that with sincerity. I feel comfortable with him, and I can talk to him about anything. One of our dates, things went farther then I had wanted because I was afraid he would have sex with me then just disappear. After that we still hung out but he wouldn't even kiss me or touch me. But the dates were still fun. Last week we hung out. He made me dinner and everything was fine. He was going away for the weekend so I knew he would be busy. I told him to have fun. Well while he was away, I got a drunk phone call from him in the middle of the night. I answered and we talked for almost an hour. He asked me why I freaked out that night. He told me he wanted to date me and see where things went. He said that he thought we would make a good couple and could really be good together. I told him I felt the same way and expressed I really liked him. Even though he was drinking, I felt like he was being genuine. Anyway, I texted him the next morning asking him how he was to see if he was hungover and he was fine. He talked about possibly meeting up Sunday if not definitely Monday. So Sunday I call him, he told me he was recovering from the weekend. During the call, he had to go bc he wasn't feeling well. With the abrupt ending, I told him I hoped he felt better. Nothing from him after that. So Monday I text him again to see how he's feeling. No response. I asked if we were still on for that night. No response. Later that night, he finally responded saying he left his phone at home. I felt like I was bugging him so didn't ask if he still wanted to get together. He didn't say much about it either. Anyway, I might be overreacting but since his phone call, I feel like he's been distant. He would text me through out the day and now nothing. I don't know what to think of it all and I'm so confused. I know it's only been a month but I felt good about this guy. Why is he distancing himself from me? Edited August 27, 2013 by Jadedbyluv Hit share too soon
BluEyeL Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Probably because you over reacted that evening. Keep your cool, and give him some space, he might come around. I noticed that men like women who are not too emotional. Maybe you freaking out made you look "crazy". You just need to wait it out. Good luck!
Author Jadedbyluv Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 The waiting is killing me. I wish I said something or did something different.
BluEyeL Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 The waiting is killing me. I wish I said something or did something different. I feel for you, I know how hard it must be. Do your best to act as unemotional as possible now, I believe it might be the only way to show that you are not prone to overreact on a regular basis.
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