Sabrina88 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Hey Friends If you are in LDR with someone and you didn't like the person when you met them in person will you still pretend to love them or you will just let them know. I was in this situation where i met my long distance boyfriend he was fine with me thoughout our meeting which gave me a feeling that he likes me and cares fo me but then my world turned upside down when he met my friend during the same meeting and was showing more interest in her but then when he was with me again he was again in that "loving caring" mode... He didn't broke up with me for 5 months although he didnt talked properly to me even during that 5 months.Now he is giving me excuses that he breaking up cuz his parents are not ready for this relation and he can't go against them and after this very incident he proposed my friend(whom he met duing our first meeting).He is not Talking to me but as my sister is also a friend of that friend of mine...he is trying to convince my sister that he did wrong to me but that was out of his control as he got attracted to my friend and now as he can't see us together so he is looking forward to that friend of mine"...I am no longer talking to my boyfriend or my friend Also, there is a back story to "that friend of mine and my boyfriend"... I was suppose to visit my boyfriend country but then i changed my mind and went to my home country..during that time(2 days) we broke up and he started talking to this very friend of mine (she is in the same country as my boyfriend)..he proposed her and she told me about that...i told her that he was dating me before she just blocked him and stopped talking to him..and then he came back to me and gave me a story that he was flirting with her to make me jealous as he knows she will tell me about it" And then when we met(me and my boyfriend) coincidently that friend was there and i thought about clearing there issues as after all she is my friend and he's my boyfriend..and during that meeting "he was attracted to her" My boyfriend says"He was attracted to her very first time he contacted her bu then though that it's not right so he came back to me"-----whereas i think he was just using me to get intouch with her again as she was not talking to him... My Friend says"She feels that his feelings for her are genuine and when i askd her o delete him from her facebook ..."she said i don't hate him but i don't like him either and the last time i talked to her..."i asked her are you still talking to him" but she said no...and i get to know that they are talking....:( why would a friend of mine lie to me for a guy she just met and whom she knows was my boyfriend ...is it something that my boyfriend have told her something to win her trust...that now she longer even care to talk to me about it ...or she hiding that she is talking to him as she doesnt want to hurt me :sick:
justwhoiam Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Your whole story would make sense if you were all 15 or 16, and I'm afraid you're not. If you are in LDR with someone and you didn't like the person when you met them in person will you still pretend to love them No, definitely not. why would a friend of mine lie to me for a guy she just met and whom she knows was my boyfriend 1) Is his status clear on FB as your boyfriend? 2) When you asked, probably they were not talking 3) She decided not to delete his contact, because she was hoping to keep a door open with him 4) For the 3 reasons above, it's not a sure thing that she lied to you is it something that my boyfriend have told her something to win her trust...that now she longer even care to talk to me about it ...or she hiding that she is talking to him as she doesnt want to hurt me If you knew he was interested in her, or had had an intuition about that, you could have talked to your friend and asked friendly: I guess he likes you, can you tell me if he starts talking to you, please? And as a friend, it's very likely she would have, because you asked her to let you know. But you went down a different road, and now you see different results. He probably gave you tons of signs too. It takes two to be together. You can't keep someone, no matter how much you claim you love them.
Rubix123 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 You know what, don't entertain any of them. It takes two to tango, and this guy wouldn't of just broke up with you unless he really was sure he had a chance. I once had a 'best friend' and a boyfriend in a long distance relationship who were on msn to each other the same time to me and we flirting and I got rid of them both after weeks and weeks of worrying and wondering she played the innocent part.... Turns out they were both liars and cheats....... My suggestion is do the same and get rid of them both no matter how good a friend she seemingly is, I thought my ex best friend was like a sister... Until she stabbed me in the back and not for the first time. Loose this guy too he sounds like an arse anyway. And you can do so much better. You will..... believe me. And she's probably lying and not telling you cos she doesn't want to lose you as a friend but if your a true friend you wouldn't go for your friends man. 1
Author Sabrina88 Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 1) Is his status clear on FB as your boyfriend? 2) When you asked, probably they were not talking 3) She decided not to delete his contact, because she was hoping to keep a door open with him 4) For the 3 reasons above, it's not a sure thing that she lied to you If you knew he was interested in her, or had had an intuition about that, you could have talked to your friend and asked friendly: I guess he likes you, can you tell me if he starts talking to you, please? And as a friend, it's very likely she would have, because you asked her to let you know. But you went down a different road, and now you see different results. He probably gave you tons of signs too. It takes two to be together. You can't keep someone, no matter how much you claim you love them. 1.His status on facebook doesn't say he is my boyfriend 2.I get to know that they are talking as i told my friend that my ex boyfriend is stalking her as "my ex boyfriend is following my friends ex boyfriend on facebook" and the day i told her this the next day my ex deactivated his facebook and then he reactivate after a day and then he was not following that guy. 3.What for she wants to keep the door open...is that guy mean more now then our friendship About talking friendly to my friend that my ex likes you...."My ex boyfriend called my friend and told her that he likes her" even then she is talking to him...also after telling my friend that he likes her ....he gave me the reason for breaking up and before that he was just fighting for no reason...and to come out clean infront of my friend he said "i am discontinuing the relation cuz my parents don't want him to marry me" and then he said to my friend "i like you from the very first time we met"...what does this conclude...and what i don't understand is.... "when he was in relation with me then why cant he just give me this reason(that he likes my friend) instead he was making all other excuses and my friend whom he just met (he opened up infront of her and gave all these reasons to her not me)
saltyfishhead666 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Hey Friends If you are in LDR with someone and you didn't like the person when you met them in person will you still pretend to love them or you will just let them know. I was in this situation where i met my long distance boyfriend he was fine with me thoughout our meeting which gave me a feeling that he likes me and cares fo me but then my world turned upside down when he met my friend during the same meeting and was showing more interest in her but then when he was with me again he was again in that "loving caring" mode... He didn't broke up with me for 5 months although he didnt talked properly to me even during that 5 months.Now he is giving me excuses that he breaking up cuz his parents are not ready for this relation and he can't go against them and after this very incident he proposed my friend(whom he met duing our first meeting).He is not Talking to me but as my sister is also a friend of that friend of mine...he is trying to convince my sister that he did wrong to me but that was out of his control as he got attracted to my friend and now as he can't see us together so he is looking forward to that friend of mine"...I am no longer talking to my boyfriend or my friend Also, there is a back story to "that friend of mine and my boyfriend"... I was suppose to visit my boyfriend country but then i changed my mind and went to my home country..during that time(2 days) we broke up and he started talking to this very friend of mine (she is in the same country as my boyfriend)..he proposed her and she told me about that...i told her that he was dating me before she just blocked him and stopped talking to him..and then he came back to me and gave me a story that he was flirting with her to make me jealous as he knows she will tell me about it" And then when we met(me and my boyfriend) coincidently that friend was there and i thought about clearing there issues as after all she is my friend and he's my boyfriend..and during that meeting "he was attracted to her" My boyfriend says"He was attracted to her very first time he contacted her bu then though that it's not right so he came back to me"-----whereas i think he was just using me to get intouch with her again as she was not talking to him... My Friend says"She feels that his feelings for her are genuine and when i askd her o delete him from her facebook ..."she said i don't hate him but i don't like him either and the last time i talked to her..."i asked her are you still talking to him" but she said no...and i get to know that they are talking....:( why would a friend of mine lie to me for a guy she just met and whom she knows was my boyfriend ...is it something that my boyfriend have told her something to win her trust...that now she longer even care to talk to me about it ...or she hiding that she is talking to him as she doesnt want to hurt me :sick: Your friend would lie to you because she is a D*ck pure and simple. "friends" don't do that too each other. Get yourself a new friend because clearly you can't trust that one!
lianxiaofeng Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I've been approached maybe 6 or 7 times.
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