2inexperienced Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I am in a 7 year relationship with my first gf and sexual partner. My curiosity and inexperience is something that has been bugging me of late and has been sparked by a crush towards another girl. We were very stable after living together for a number of years and decided to move abroad together for her career development. I even took a much lower paying job to be with her, however now I rarely see her or get to hang out (we are working 6 days a week), and most of the time she is in a bitter mood due to work stress, but in general, to be honest, she is not always a very positive person. Our sex life has also suffered. She was never really been much of a sexual person to begin with, but we have gone a few months without. Work schedules and energy levels have much to do with it, but it should not be an excuse, especially at our age. I know I make her happy and she loves me, and I do love her, but it seems the passion and excitement has diminished. I have also become quite close with another girl. We have gone for dinner and drinks several times in groups of friends, and we just have great chemistry and we feel so comfortable around each other. She makes me feel good about myself and is an amazingly positive person. Is it normal to have such crushes while in a relationship? How do I know if my gf is the one if she is the only one that I have been with?? I know I bring out the best in her, but does she bring out the best in me? What should I do?
Philosoraptor Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you stop being attracted to other people. If you feel you need to be with someone else to check if she's the one, then she's not the one. If you were fully satisified with the relationship (which you clearly aren't) you wouldn't be questioning this at all. The only decision you need to make is whether or not you want to put your energy into fixing what you have now, or break up and put that energy into chasing someone else. If you want to end things and pursue this other woman, just be honest and make it a clean break.
Author 2inexperienced Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 Thank you philosraptor. I am trying to spend more time with my current gf and see if we can rekindle what we once had. I still have this crush which I will have to fight until I can ensure im making the right choice. If things go sour again I will be less hesitant to bring things to an end.
KCCK Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 relationship is something that involves two parties... if you really love your current gf, please put all effort into solving and overcoming whatever obstacles that you both encountered... if you no longer love her, please dont cheat behind her back and just end it with her.. if you still love her, than please forget about the new girl and try to make things work again.. 7 years is a long duration and i am sure there are many sweet memories along the way.. =) 1
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