jeannette12 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 My partner broke up with me because it was still early days in our relationship for this kind of thing. We had been together 10 months. I had suffered from depression and used alcohol as a way to cope. I also had work issues. Ultimately I got worse and worse and my friends even wanted to sort of keep me at a distance. Ultimately my partner came to the painful decision that he hated my lifestyle and that nothing had gotten better. He thinks that nobody let alone him alone can make me happy. Or rather could as this was years ago. After repeating the pattern (not intending too) with new flings and finally changing myself for the better 8 months ago. I now feel for the first time in my life that I actually love myself and have a lot to offer a partner. Rather than just what they can offer me. I actually was barely if at all drunk around previous partners etc. But experienced has told me that overall it takes it's toll and it damages relationships being a negative, unhappy person who abuses substances in my case alcohol. Anyway I want to get back with that guy of over two years ago. We have not even kept in contact for the last year. Too painful and him rejecting me at the time was something I think I was using to further depress myself and use alcohol etc. In some sort of unconcious way. I guess. Have you ever loved a partner but had to leave them because they are bringing you down? I am hoping to rekindle romance with my love lost. My chances?
Philosoraptor Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 The most important thing here is you have learned to control your habits. He may be with or courting someone else, he may have been too scarred from the past to try again... all you can do is open up communication with him and see where it goes. Best of luck, and congrats for finding out how to take better care of yourself.
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