TyrionGuy Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 ladies and gents, here's a question if you could help me... I've been happily in a relationship (with Girl A) for several years. Before this relationship started though I met a girl (Girl B) who was very much like me, we had very much in common. We were great friends and obviously I kinda fell in love with the girl... deeply... to the point where I dreamt about her every day for months... never knew if it was mutual. Although she told me that she loved (not love love) me and missed me Anyway, after months of hanging out, going out partying etc we both went our separate ways and I decided to stop e-mailing and texting her, as I needed to get over her (like I said, she never gave me the impression that the feelings were mutual) So months later I met Girl A and started this new relationship and everything went great. Every once in a while I started wondering about Girl B, but soon enough forgot her. Suddenly by chance I met her in the street. Coincidentally she had e-mailed me the day before asking why we stopped talking etc... we chit chat for a bit (10minutes) but I had things to do so I had to run. Strangely enough I felt nothing... That was about 3years ago... once again we never got in touch with each other However, recently I've been getting the urge to know how Girl B is. I know my girlfriend wouldn't appreciate it if I started talking to the girl again, and I really don't intend on rekindling that relationship but I just want to know how the girl is doing, if everything is alright etc... what should I do? I don't have the same feeling for the girl, just curious I guess... what do you guys and girls think? thank you
Author TyrionGuy Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 thank you for your suggestion... I don't believe I will feel the old spark as we haven't been in touch for so long... and obviously I very much love my girlfriend.... I think what I'm debating is if it's worth it to reach out and make a connection... I guess I'm just curious about how she's doing... 1
mea_M Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 thank you for your suggestion... I don't believe I will feel the old spark as we haven't been in touch for so long... and obviously I very much love my girlfriend.... I think what I'm debating is if it's worth it to reach out and make a connection... I guess I'm just curious about how she's doing... Ever hear the saying "Curiosity killed the cat'?, in many cases that's true. My advice, stick to the gf you love. Let the other chica GO. Good luck. Mea:)
almond Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 You fell deeply in love with this other girl, and needed to distance in order to get over her. You are curious as to how she is doing, but this is not really your concern. I feel it would be unwise to reconnect with this girl, and may cause a lot of heartache. If you know for a fact that your current girlfriend would not appreciate this, and you value this relationship, then I would advise that you do not proceed with reconnecting. I do not think it is appropriate nor respectful. If you do however choose to go down this route, only do so with your partner's blessing - do not go behind her back on this. Do not betray her. If you feel the need to jeopardize your current relationship for an old flame, then you might want to reconsider altogether...perhaps this isn't right for you? Perhaps you are unsatisfied? If you feel you need to go behind your partner's back to see this girl, then end it with her first.
Author TyrionGuy Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 You fell deeply in love with this other girl, and needed to distance in order to get over her. You are curious as to how she is doing, but this is not really your concern. I feel it would be unwise to reconnect with this girl, and may cause a lot of heartache. If you know for a fact that your current girlfriend would not appreciate this, and you value this relationship, then I would advise that you do not proceed with reconnecting. I do not think it is appropriate nor respectful. If you do however choose to go down this route, only do so with your partner's blessing - do not go behind her back on this. Do not betray her. If you feel the need to jeopardize your current relationship for an old flame, then you might want to reconsider altogether...perhaps this isn't right for you? Perhaps you are unsatisfied? If you feel you need to go behind your partner's back to see this girl, then end it with her first. First of all thank you all for all your answers... I don't really feel like I want to meet up with the girl, just know what's been going on for the past 5years... and she did reach out to me a couple of years ago... My girl would probably wouldn't like it, and I've already put myself in her shoes and wouldn't like to know she did the same... oh well... guess this curiosity will have to remain unanswered
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