Rubix123 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I am trying to control my emotions better than i have been.... I get so hysterical and upset at times but i aint allowing this anymore in myself. Basically my boyfriend lives 6 hours away and we see each other every 2 weeks. We are both 23. He expects me to talk ALL THE TIME when i am out with friends or family... And i do cause i dont have a problem with that cause i believe we should talk(text and call atleast most of the day) we dont just talk for the sake of it we actually try different things... Skype... Calls.... Texts.... I.M's..... Other ways too! I get that anyone wanting to talk 24/7 is clingy and i am happy to give my Boyfriend space if thats what he wants but he never asks for space yet when HE GOES OUT HE JUST 'turns his phone off' and im suppose to accept that. I dont kick a fuss anymore but i know if i done that he would shout at me and take a meltdown... Its also the same as skypes.... If i areange a skype time hes always late with it yet if he arranges it and im late i get ahouted at too? Anyway he keepsforgetting to charge his battery at night cos he keeps falling asleep on me on skype which is really frustrating too cos skype is the only time we can really talk and relax and yet he still Falls asleep. I get it im not bitching or moaning im just fed up of not having any actual quality time cos 1. hes either forgotton to charge his battery the night before 2. The wifi plays up 3. He falls asleep 4. He has no signal 5. Hes too busy helping his mum So i did try ask him maturely but he jut seems to think Im going on and on and on and i am not all. All i want is answers or some atleast. I know he would never cheat so thats not even on the cards but what the hell Can i do? I feel like im doing so much to try get his attentiom.... Yes i have suggested about earlier skypes or calls but hes always too busy with his mum....or something else.
justwhoiam Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Slow down communication during the day in favor of some quality time once a day, once every couple of days. And see how it works. He'd better take things more seriously. He knows you're always available, and that is playing against you. This shouldn't happen. 2
Trufita Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Slow down communication during the day in favor of some quality time once a day, once every couple of days. And see how it works. He'd better take things more seriously. He knows you're always available, and that is playing against you. This shouldn't happen. Exactly. It's not fair that you are always ready to talk to him, even when you are with your friends/family whereas when he has other things to do he "forgets" about you. It should be the same for both of you. If you've tried to talk to him and it doesn't work, what about being a bit more like him? Enjoy the time with your friends and family without paying attention at your phone to see if he has talked to you, don't be too avaliable! I'm always told that men get bored if you are too avaliable for them. If he gets upset because you are not that up for him all the time, you can talk to him and tell him he does the same thing and maybe that way he will open his eyes. 2
Author Rubix123 Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 (edited) Hmmm you would think so. I've tried that. It's not that he "forgets" cause he doesn't hes just always seemingly too busy or in a rush seemingly. I've really hit exploding point though, he was out all day and I didn't complain once, we had a skype and then he fell asleep which made my blood boil so much! I just feel so bloody angry and frustrated it feels like he isn't excited to speak to me anymore.. I confronted him and said that after managing to wake him up........ And he said I was being stupid. I feel like I'm constantly straining words and attention out of him. I love him so much and vide versa, id never break up with him. I just can't take this waiting about all day and night for him much more its driving me insane, yeah I'm unemployed and looking for work but so is he!!! My patience is running so low and I feel so down Edited August 27, 2013 by Rubix123
Treasa Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Go out more often. When you do, turn off your phone. Don't react if he gets upset, except to tell him that you won't talk to him if he can't behave rationally. And then break up with him if his behavior doesn't change.
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