melell Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Just curious, I am aware it could take years. I just wonder how fast it is possible to get over it. I know it can't be forced, and it is different for everyone. I just keep reading threads where it takes people years to get over relationships much shorter than mine was, I was hoping there were some that got over things much sooner.
keepontruckin Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 You'll probably NEVER get over the loss of a true love completely. How much it diminishes, and how fast, is a matter of your own personality traits, combined with what your surroundings happen to be, I believe... 1
Cutlose Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Me and my ex, we were together almost three years, nothing compared to eight not even half, but yet I still can sit and think of the time. How much love and affection I put into the relationship over time, how much tears and sweat I gave, how much things took place within this time period. It hurts. Thinking of loosing everything I've already built. Everything I've already worked so hard for to be Mines. All the feelings, all the intertwined emotions and all the experiences that took place, how can anyone let that go so fast, unless their hearts weren't as in to it. Or maybe they just have that strength to get over love faster then others.. I wish I was like that, but I'm not. We've been through break ups and make ups, but when you get to a point where you realize this **** is not going to work...whooo....that's the most awful feeling in the world, and I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. Love can kill sometimes. So for someone like me, I'll probably never trust another man again for a long time, years even. But I can't say how long it will take me to move on with my life in general. My routine was him. My routine was caring and loving him. I had no other position. And from that to now, I have to get back to me. Sorry...I just got into it. My heart is really broken. And I'm sure I'm not the only one.
JDPT Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 Getting over a breakup is not the same as falling in love it doesn't just happen. You need to do the grunt work in order to see results. Understanding that the relationship is over for good and internalizing this concept is imperative. Rerouting your thoughts when "beautiful" memories of you and your ex flood and torture your brain. Keep yourself occupied and accomplish all that goals you will like to accomplish as you are now a free agent. There is no set time frame for this, you will gradually see improvement as long as you put in the effort.
Mint Sauce Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 anywhere between a month per year of relationship, up to a 1-1 relation. So you're looking at between 8 months and 8 years. In my experience (after a 7 year marriage and a 5 year relationship): after x months I'm ready to go back to normal life. After x/2 years, I can think back and enjoy the memories while in a new relationship. But I think I'm on the slow end of the bell curve.
Philosoraptor Posted August 28, 2013 Posted August 28, 2013 You'll get over it faster if you stop worrying about getting over it. Just take care of yourself, shift your focus from the past and put it on your present and future, and you'll find that the healing time is much quicker. Everyone heals differently, and if you allow yourself to heal your best, you'll give yourself the quickest healing time.
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