Author so gutted Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 He sounds like he really really loves u. why don't u love him back? Is he not your type or something? Is he a really really nice guy? He is a very nice guy, almost too good to be true. A real gent. I am scared because of my age and having kids etc. he is dating me, i Am assessing him as a future husband.
Author so gutted Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 He has mentioned marriage and kids a few times. Says We would have good looking mixed race kids. His brother married a similar looking girl. He laughs it off but is there any seriousness here?
Author so gutted Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 I sensed an issue when he was trying to "tease me" but i was moving back, moving away. He said he wants a relationship, now his behavior is changing slightly. He is in contact but a bit hurt. I extracted out of him that he does not like it when i moved back, away from him. I told him this was because he was not using protection... When teasing..
Author so gutted Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 So does this mean everything he said before was untrue, it all amounts to sex only? I feel stupid. He has not done anything wrong, not mistreated me or forcede but he is cooling off. He has explained, when prompted... Guys - would you feel offended/ hurt if a woman did this? He is kind, attentive and pays for dates.. But ultimately its about sex? Or is that part of the relationship. He does not know that i have never had a real boyfriend. I am so lost.
Mascara Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I am so lost. Me too. Honestly, I have no idea what your original post even means and I've read it about 5 times. 7
Dolphono Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I sensed an issue when he was trying to "tease me" but i was moving back, moving away. He said he wants a relationship, now his behavior is changing slightly. He is in contact but a bit hurt. I extracted out of him that he does not like it when i moved back, away from him. I told him this was because he was not using protection... When teasing.. How was he teasing you? Were You guys already in the buff and about to do the "do"? So does this mean everything he said before was untrue, it all amounts to sex only? I feel stupid. He has not done anything wrong, not mistreated me or forcede but he is cooling off. He has explained, when prompted... Guys - would you feel offended/ hurt if a woman did this? He is kind, attentive and pays for dates.. But ultimately its about sex? Or is that part of the relationship. He does not know that i have never had a real boyfriend. I am so lost. If you said "no" and stop the deed from happening. You just give dude blue balls. Hello! Why wouldn't this be a sex issue for him?
Author so gutted Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 He was trasing me, with the tip..
Author so gutted Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 He was kissing me etc and inserting the tip inside me unprotected, i moved back and said no no no. Then he used a condom but the damage was done he was offended..
veggirl Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 He was kissing me etc and inserting the tip inside me unprotected, i moved back and said no no no. Then he used a condom but the damage was done he was offended.. this douchebag was OFFENDED you didn't wanna have unprotected sex?! he was "hurt"?! you gotta be kidding me. he is a tool! 4
nescafe1982 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 (edited) Yeah, he's got no grounds to be "offended." You were doing something risky and you had reservations about it. He needs to man up. If he pulls away because you wouldn't have unprotected sex with him on your THIRD DATE, consider it a blessing. He's not a guy worth dating. LOL at the "blue balls" comment. Do people actually still say that nonsense? Edited September 3, 2013 by nescafe1982
Author so gutted Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 This happens a lot on a less classy basis ( no dinner, no date just straightaway).. My question is it a relationship, is it part of one or just sex?
Author so gutted Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 Is he "entitled" to sex after 3 long dates where he paid for everything?
almond Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 You're not going to get answers to those questions here I'm afraid - he is the only one that can tell you that. However, it is highly likely that it's just light-hearted banter without any substance - actually seriously considering children with someone after only two dates would be highly unusual, and a red flag in my opinion. I'd suggest not lying about your age online. You will have to tell future partners the truth at some point, and the fact that you lied may make them question your honesty, as well as highlighting your insecurity. Keeping this lie going, and eventually coming clean will also trigger a fair bit of stress and anxiety for you I imagine (how will he react, how to tell him, when to tell him blah blah). You are who you are - if a man wouldn't date you because of your age, then you don't want them anyway! I really think it would be good for you to stop over analysing every little detail to death - you'll drive yourself insane that way! Also, please consider seriously doing some work in order to become secure and comfortable with who and what you are. Good luck
veggirl Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Is he "entitled" to sex after 3 long dates where he paid for everything? um no but you could chip in if you want. any douche that will be offended you won't let him in bareback on a 3rd date is YES JUST IN IT FOR SEX. 3
almond Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 (edited) Is he "entitled" to sex after 3 long dates where he paid for everything? This is concerning. If you even need to ask this sort of question, you are far from ready to be dating. Refusing unprotected sex was responsible and safe - for him to have been offended is very telling IMO. This guy seems to be a douchebag of the highest order. Run. If you said "no" and stop the deed from happening. You just give dude blue balls. Hello! Why wouldn't this be a sex issue for him? I do not mean to be offensive, but you either lack basic reading comprehension skills, or you have an incredibly poor attitude and general outlook. Strange post indeed. Edited September 3, 2013 by almond 1
Dolphono Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 This is concerning. If you even need to ask this sort of question, you are far from ready to be dating. Refusing unprotected sex was responsible and safe - for him to have been offended is very telling IMO. This guy seems to be a douchebag of the highest order. Run. I do not mean to be offensive, but you either lack basic reading comprehension skills, or you have an incredibly poor attitude and general outlook. Strange post indeed. My comprehension skills are outstanding, if you noticed the young lady was not very clear in articulating her question clearly. I was asking questions and giving answers, based on how I understood her, and from a male point of view, since that's who the question was targeted to. The young lady than made her question more clearer for everyone to understand better, which resulted in sound advice from fellow poster such as yourself.
almond Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Oh, excuse me - you're totally correct! I posted, then as I was scanning up, I completely lost track of the progression of the thread and thought: "what a retarded response!" Edited and got on my high horse. The retardation is all mine this time. Apologies! More sleep, less work is evidently in order on my behalf. I'm super cracked out today, I should probably stop typing now... 1
Author so gutted Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 Thanks all. I have never had a proper sexusl boyfriend girlfriend relationship And hence my post. He is really nice. When i said use protection he did but i was tense. If I drink its ok. He went away confused and unhappy. We talked after and he admitted that he does not like it when i move away. He is in contact. We have spent a lot of time together but now he has reverted to text, not calling. It feels more sexual now. My query is this not part of a normal relationship? I sleays wanted a dominant sort of man. I am not offended by him wanting sex i just want to explain that i have not done this before without putting him off. I feel like a virgin ..
Dolphono Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 oh, excuse me - you're totally correct! I posted, then as i was scanning up, i completely lost track of the progression of the thread and thought: "what a retarded response!" edited and got on my high horse. The retardation is all mine this time. Apologies! More sleep, less work is evidently in order on my behalf. I'm super cracked out today, i should probably stop typing now... muah!!! XOXO...
Dolphono Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Thanks all. I have never had a proper sexusl boyfriend girlfriend relationship And hence my post. He is really nice. When i said use protection he did but i was tense. If I drink its ok. He went away confused and unhappy. We talked after and he admitted that he does not like it when i move away. He is in contact. We have spent a lot of time together but now he has reverted to text, not calling. It feels more sexual now. My query is this not part of a normal relationship? I sleays wanted a dominant sort of man. I am not offended by him wanting sex i just want to explain that i have not done this before without putting him off. I feel like a virgin .. Young lady, focus on your studies and your future for/with yourself first. If you desire to get laid, get laid and stop making an emotional and mental mess of things. Lay down the law for yourself. NO GLOVE? NO LOVE!!! If you are under the age of 25?. DO NOT concern yourself about relationships. Sorry to break it to you, but young men at that age/stage are only looking for sexual relations, even if they are delusional enough to believe they're serious about the current "girlfriend". The little "solider", that does all the thinking for them, is always hungry for something newer and hotter. 1
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