irc333 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Where I work, there are 3 married couples that work in the same building and 1 couple that is just in a LTR. I was kind of baffled when I had come to realize this , considering how the workplace is the worst place TO be dating, but apparently it's of no consequence to some people...I guess being married makes it all moot though and there's no real "dating" going on?
bolase Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Well I am...and on the rocks though it may be, it's normal, it's where a lot of people find their long term partners or spouses. The main thing is to ensure that you go for someone that you are confident you would be okay with, working alongside them, if it doesn't pan out.
keepontruckin Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Workplace dating would be a dream where I work, if I was gay... Nothing but men in this industry:mad: However, from personal experience, the workplace is a very popular place for people to meet. In fact, I have a hunch that my STBXW may be banging one of her coworkers... In my work, there are two people that have married and since divorced.
StanMusial Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Where I work, there are 3 married couples that work in the same building and 1 couple that is just in a LTR. I was kind of baffled when I had come to realize this , considering how the workplace is the worst place TO be dating, but apparently it's of no consequence to some people...I guess being married makes it all moot though and there's no real "dating" going on? It is fairly common IMO. Once place I worked years ago was notorious for people getting together. I remember several times the large conference room at the end of the hall being reserved for a wedding shower - both bride and groom worked there.
iris219 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I was kind of baffled when I had come to realize this , considering how the workplace is the worst place TO be dating Why is it the worst the place to find dates? Where I work there are at least 6 married couples (all but one met there), one divorced couple, one couple that broke up (never married) but share a child, and one dating couple (my bf and I). We are all mature adults and can handle dating, no matter what the outcome is. We live in a smallish town that has very few singles and even fewer single, educated professionals. Our workplace is one of the few places in town where a bunch of educated professionals congregate all day, so it makes sense to date each other. My bf and I love working together. We are in different departments, so it's not like we have to see each other constantly, but it's nice to be able to visit each other during the day. We worked there for two years without ever meeting, so if something goes wrong, it wouldn't be a big deal.
Imported Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 "Love" happens where you get to meet and know people...usually of the opposite sex. Some people don't really do that outside of work.
AD1980 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I think it leads to more cheating then actual relationships ive heard of tons of married people cheatign with someone at work because they spend more time there then at home and build a connection with the person
soccerrprp Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Workplace dating is very common. Despite advice (some company policies) to refrain from such, it is common. Many people find their mates from it.
Star Gazer Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Where I work, there are 3 married couples that work in the same building and 1 couple that is just in a LTR. In the same building? Or do they work with each other? I have two very good friends who work in my building, but we very clearly do not work "together," and one of them doesn't even work for the same employer.
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Depends on the work environment. In retail? Ohmygoodness everyone dated each other, course, we all were youngish and hung out, outside of work. Managers and shift leads are off limits, but for all of us worker bees? Why not? Even at carmax TONS of people dated and married people who they worked with. There though, you couldn't work at the same store as your spouse, so many people would transfer to another location or quit once married. I just always personally never wanted to date someone and see them at work ALL THE TIME. The one time I did do it... I broke the rules and it was a manager. 1
emva07 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 As big of a taboo as it is, it's very common... On the DL, lol.
Author irc333 Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 In the same building? Or do they work with each other? I have two very good friends who work in my building, but we very clearly do not work "together," and one of them doesn't even work for the same employer. Same building, about 100+ employees. SO everyone pretty much knows each other. Like the receptionist dating an accountant, etc. It's kind of unfortunate that all the women are taken though. lol Though, there's some single guys where female co-workers try to fix male co-workers up with their friends (who are outside of work).
Author irc333 Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 Because there's a high risk of getting fired for dating a coworker. Yeah, definitely high risk of getting canned.....I guess the whole "Don't pee the same place you eat" mantra doesn't apply? I guess I'm so used to having a social life outside of the workplace.
thefooloftheyear Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Depends on the work environment. In retail? Ohmygoodness everyone dated each other, course, we all were youngish and hung out, outside of work. Managers and shift leads are off limits, but for all of us worker bees? Why not? Even at carmax TONS of people dated and married people who they worked with. There though, you couldn't work at the same store as your spouse, so many people would transfer to another location or quit once married. I just always personally never wanted to date someone and see them at work ALL THE TIME. The one time I did do it... I broke the rules and it was a manager. I agree^^ To spend 24/7 like that just isnt healthy-for me anyway..I mean, imagine riding into work together in the same car, working together, riding home, then being together ALL the time...Its just toooo much...Heck, even sharing ALL the same hobbies probably isnt such a good idea either. Some do it and it works, so *shrug*... You need to have some distance, IMO.. TFY
nescafe1982 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I've never dated in the office but know lots of my coworkers have. There's an even mix of scandals/spurned lovers and real-deal long-term romances. Our office has a policy against interoffice dating but the reality is that if people spend a lot of time together someone is going to catch feelings. I think it's all about how one negotiates workplace hierarchies and heads off gossip and company policies. Never date someone who is your boss/subordinate, and once the relationship "goes public" makes sure to go through the proper paperwork with HR.
Keenly Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 statistically, the most common place you meet some one new to date is at work, since you are there for a large chunk of your week. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 My parents met through work. My mom was a regular part time worker and my dad was assistant manager. I have a friend who met his fiance at a retail job (neither one of them works there anymore though). Back in high school there were two teachers who met while teaching at the school and ended up getting married. So it happens. At orientation we went over the "dating and the workplace" policies, complete with a video on sexual harassment...
StanMusial Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 My parents met through work. My mom was a regular part time worker and my dad was assistant manager. I have a friend who met his fiance at a retail job (neither one of them works there anymore though). Back in high school there were two teachers who met while teaching at the school and ended up getting married. So it happens. At orientation we went over the "dating and the workplace" policies, complete with a video on sexual harassment... I hope they taught you proper sexual harassment techniques. 49 goin to get laid with the immigrant girls. 1
waiting4u Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Don't **** where you eat - to be crude. Trust me. If you break up, you still have to work there. 1
Dude420 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Guilty as charged here. However, my girl and I are sort of keeping it secret, only a couple of my friend co-workers know, but I trust them enough that they keep it secret too (same with her and her friends). The majority of the store co-workers, even the superiors don't know about us and we've been going out together for more than 3 months. At work we keep it strictly professional to avoid any suspicion.
white Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Really common. Most common way to meet amongst my friends, all in LTR's or mostly married. Depends on the job. **** you can drop in a week or temping, you can go through the girls like a plow without a care. Actual professional job... better be really sure she's discreet. Like, standards of sureness indicating just not to do it at all.
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I hope they taught you proper sexual harassment techniques. 49 goin to get laid with the immigrant girls. It was a very interesting video. In it a young guy ended up getting called into the manger's office and a drink thrown in his face (not by the manager though), and an old guy stared down a girl's shirt in a warehouse. And many immigrant ladies are quite lovely, so I guess I'll keep my fingers crossed. There are a lot of stores in the vicinity too, so I can always chat up some ladies at the coffee or food place when I'm on break... 1
jcrew11 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I think its more just out of convenience and laziness. Women don't like going to sketchy bars to meet sketchy men. I think many women prefer to marry a guy through work, as long as its her choice. There are sexual harassment lawsuits of women receiving unwanted advances. But usually that is because the guy is really out of line and can't take a hint that she doesn't like him. I think its okay to date at work, as long as you take it slow and do it quietly without drama or bothering other co-workers.
Simon Phoenix Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 It's common and can be fruitful. But it can also turn into an awkward disaster quickly. Very high-risk, high-reward. It's best not to do it, but sometimes it's just natural.
StanMusial Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 This topic has come up several times before so this time I'll just keep it short and simple. Give yourself a fighting chance and avoid the ones that are most likely to cause drama. Many times it is obvious which ones, but you have to be able to make that call, and that takes experience IMO. Any girl that is really open about her dating woes, SCRATCH. Any girl that has drama in her life (shows up late, lazy, doesn't seem to get along with others in the office, gossipy, etc.) SCRATCH. Bad reputation around the office, SCRATCH.
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