nervous to ask out coworkers son

[running4timing99]

Should I ask out my co workers son on a date? He’s a year and a half younger than me. Broke up with his girlfriend last December and is still single. He’s good looking, kind, goal, mature, oriented between cross country and college. I get the feeling we’d get along well. Although, so far we‘ve only hung out while visiting his father outside work.Meerly meet on few occasions. He’s attending college and visits during his summer, winter, and holiday days. What’s makes it difficult is I still live at home and would be embarrassed of bringing him to my mother. She’s an alcoholic, non working, over bearing person. Any advice would be appreciated.

[Leigh 87]

Don't ask guys out.

 

You talk to guys and get to know them, and if they are interested, they will almost always ask you out (unless they are extremely shy or lacking confidence).

 

It is a bit desperate to ask guys out without knowing them first and actually getting clear signs from them, that they are into you.

 

Frankly, only the best looking women can could just outright ask out a guy she hardly knew, and get him to agree (when he had not previously displayed any obvious signs of interest).

 

It is good to have confidence with men; I went and started talking to the guy I am seeing. I asked him for a lighter when we were out. From there, he made his interest known, and came and found me later in the night.

 

It is just innate; men do the asking out. I am very verbal and keen to show I am into a guy once HE asks me out first.

[BeholdtheMan]

Frankly, only the best looking women can could just outright ask out a guy she hardly knew, and get him to agree

How's the weather on Mars?

[Leigh 87]

How's the weather on Mars?

 

 

 

I'm not one of the best looking women.

 

I'm saying that unless u at least talk to a guy and feel out whether he's interested, than you shouldn't bother, as a woman, to ask him out.

 

Only THOSE women who are very good looking can walk up to a guy who she hardly knows. And ask him out.

 

It just makes no sense to ask a guy out when the op has barly talked to her and he has NOT shown any interest.

[BeholdtheMan]

It just makes no sense to ask a guy out when the op has barly talked to her and he has NOT shown any interest.

Men can be "picked up" just as easily as women

 

If OP is decently attractive (doesn't need to be drop-dead gorgeous) and the guy is single and available, she can initiate contact, build some rapport, and even ask the guy out if she doesn't want to wait for him to make the first move. For most guys, being asked out by a cute girl is a pleasant experience.

 

Now, if OP wants the guy to muster up the courage to ask her out after she initiates contact, that's fine too, but asking him out isn't going to doom her chances of a relationship with this guy

[ThomasD]

If OP is decently attractive (doesn't need to be drop-dead gorgeous) and the guy is single and available, she can initiate contact, build some rapport, and even ask the guy out if she doesn't want to wait for him to make the first move. For most guys, being asked out by a cute girl is a pleasant experience.

 

Now, if OP wants the guy to muster up the courage to ask her out after she initiates contact, that's fine too, but asking him out isn't going to doom her chances of a relationship with this guy

I don't see this as a "pick up" at all. It's an adult person telling another adult, "Hey, you seem interesting and decent and I'd like to know you better. Can we do the ballgame together next Tuesday - Dutch treat?"

 

As far as the "coworker" thing . . . if you're well acquainted with the coworker, use that to your advantage. Ask him/her about the son's interests, let him/her know you're at least casually attracted to the son, and the "who does the asking" problem gets reduced to a mere formality. Heck, a friend of my parents arranged for me to make the acquaintance of her niece . . . and we've been married (to each other!) over 39 years.