jacg89 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 We've been friends for a year. He is respectful, and I know most of his fam. They all think that we are together, but we are not officially...Its not our choice. He is going back to his country in like 6 months for a year. (he says he is going to his country to work on his farm. not to go find anybody else. also, to see his mom/dad.. its been like 10 years so he wants to go back to his country 'free', and he doesn't want either of us to get hurt.) We usually spend our days off together. We just started making out, its been 2 weeks. And we have been touching e/o, but I told him that I cant have sex with him because of the same reason he gave me: Emotions. He said that he wants me to go visit him one day to see his country, and that we are still going to talk. So we are just really close. So today was the first day that was kind of weird and I just wanted to run away.. we work together (pt) and today was the first day that not only he didn't hug me in front of everybody else, he didn't really say goodnight to me like he always does, also I overheard him talking to this girl "youre so cute, your gorgeous" ....UH. that's what he tells me. Whats he think of me if he tells everybody that? I know that he had a couple of beers, but it just made me so emotional. Like... really? (I am a cancer, haha) So do I have the right to feel this way anyway?? We already had the talk that we cant be 'official' yet, and I accept that, but right in front of me he has to do that? I don't know how to tell him that it bothers me if we already accepted that we can't be together yet...
CherryT Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Uhm. You're not together... he doesn't owe it to you to treat you like you are. You have the right to feel whatever way you want to feel. But know that you are not officially together and it doesn't sound like he wants to be. Whether he really means "yet" and has intentions to seal the deal in the future, I can't say. But judging from his reasons and how he's acted, it sounds like he likes your attention and he likes you company and maybe he wants to see if you will give him more without commitment... but you can't be upset that he's talking to other girls because he's single and isn't with you. 3
Author jacg89 Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 Uhm. You're not together... he doesn't owe it to you to treat you like you are. You have the right to feel whatever way you want to feel. But know that you are not officially together and it doesn't sound like he wants to be. Whether he really means "yet" and has intentions to seal the deal in the future, I can't say. But judging from his reasons and how he's acted, it sounds like he likes your attention and he likes you company and maybe he wants to see if you will give him more without commitment... but you can't be upset that he's talking to other girls because he's single and isn't with you. Thanks.. yeah I kinda feel the same way about giving him 'more'... I mean, the reasons why is because I don't want him to just see me as his hookup buddy (when I told him this he said 'what?' like 3 times and didn't know what I was talking about.. I'm not sure if he did or if he didn't haha but I just dropped it...) Also, Emotions. Damn emotions! But it seems like they are already there....
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