edgygirl Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 What do you guys think when someone you went on one or more dates and then stopped contacting you comes back after months saying they thought about you and realized how great and really interesting you were? It happened to me once before... and again today. In 2011 this guy I went on one date with a kiss in the end disappeared after sending a few messages... but came back after 5 months. I agreed to meet again after some insistence, we dated and he ended up wanting to marry me. I realized I didn't love him and broke up but that's another story. Meaning, sometimes people come back an things can change and work? Today a guy I spent a weekend with last year re-appeared. I said I was intrigued on why was he contacting me as he prob didn't like me and was prob not attracted to me... (that's how I felt when he disappeared). He said he saw my name on his phone and thought about me and realized I was really interesting and said that he *was* attracted. But that he got embarrassed by things that happened that weekend and shied away (this was my second guess and makes sense, as he went through meds withdrawal in front of me, which I didn't mind - I thought disappearing after was the rude thing). I dunno... in one hand I feel like a fool if I give him another chance, I hate it when people disappear without explanation, but on the other side he's a nice guy and I did like him at the time. I can't flush the idea though, in the back of my mind, that if someone didn't see how awesome you were on the first time and made the effort to keep you, it's because it's not really meant to be. How do you guys feel about this?
todreaminblue Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I think if you like them and want to go deeper you give them a chance if you have no interest whatsoever you let them go and wish them well...seeing how i wasnt attracted to my ex when i first met him or only developed feelings fo deeper attraction two years in to our friendship and that relationship lasted fifteen eyars...i would say give it a go for sure......i would.....everyone deserves a chance...if you like them, why not give that chance to them rather than a random who you dont know......people change...i think i have said that .....one million and 22 times now......people change so emotions and feelings can change for the better or for the worse.......marriage happens when you accept both facts and love regardless of changes including the rocky bits....i suggest date them for a while before the marriage thing at least two days...lol......just a suggestion...grinnin...deb 1
Author edgygirl Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 Thanks Deb, you are probably right. At least in this case I'm quite attracted to him, he's my type - a geeky guy with glasses who doesn't know he's hot 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I believe in second chances. I also believe that when I pulled that sort of move, it was because I was bored out of my mind. 1
Author edgygirl Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 Haha, that's the first thing I thought - is he on a dry spell or something?
todreaminblue Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Thanks Deb, you are probably right. At least in this case I'm quite attracted to him, he's my type - a geeky guy with glasses who doesn't know he's hot smilin i wish you the best edgygirl..happy days ahead........deb
PutARingOnIt Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 He is bored and looking for something to do.
FitChick Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Jessica Biel gave Justin Timberlake a second chance and got a wedding ring. 1
Author edgygirl Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 Jessica Biel gave Justin Timberlake a second chance and got a wedding ring. Haha, FitChick, you're awesome.
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