clairedunham Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I called after a week of break up yes.... He never responded... I need him back! I'm still crying and thought it stopped. I need him back. NC is not gonna work for me
It-is-what-it-is. Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I called after a week of break up yes.... He never responded... I need him back! I'm still crying and thought it stopped. I need him back. NC is not gonna work for me You need therapy. You are not acting rationally. You need to respect NC because he asked you to. 2
Soat Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I called after a week of break up yes.... He never responded... I need him back! I'm still crying and thought it stopped. I need him back. NC is not gonna work for me Oh Claire. Didn't we cover this how he wasn't great for you It will take time. Accept your pain and recognize logic that you need out, despite what your addicted brain incorrectly wants
Sallygirl Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 It will work. Give it time. I'm currently recovering from a breakup with a co-worker, and am so envious of those who have the choice to go 100% NC. I wish more than anything that I could. By the way, I've been through two other break ups in my life. One was a 5 year and the other a 6 year relationship. NC was 100% what got me over both of those, and I thought I would marry the one I dated for 6 years. It isn't easy, but very much worth it in the long run... 1
Soat Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 It will work. Give it time. I'm currently recovering from a breakup with a co-worker, and am so envious of those who have the choice to go 100% NC. I wish more than anything that I could. By the way, I've been through two other break ups in my life. One was a 5 year and the other a 6 year relationship. NC was 100% what got me over both of those, and I thought I would marry the one I dated for 6 years. It isn't easy, but very much worth it in the long run... Omg. Seeing the person at work must be horrible!!!! How do you do it?! You must be an amazingly strong person 1
Sallygirl Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Omg. Seeing the person at work must be horrible!!!! How do you do it?! You must be an amazingly strong person Actually, I'm not that strong. It's really, really hard and definitely slowing my recovery process down. I really hate it. In fact, I just posted a thread a little bit ago about what a hard time I am having and how confused I am. It's hard... 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I called after a week of break up yes.... He never responded... I need him back! I'm still crying and thought it stopped. I need him back. NC is not gonna work for me No, these are the words of someone in complete control 3
Soat Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Actually, I'm not that strong. It's really, really hard and definitely slowing my recovery process down. I really hate it. In fact, I just posted a thread a little bit ago about what a hard time I am having and how confused I am. It's hard... If you, no when you, overcome and move on, you will see how strong you are. My sincere admiration. You're amazing 1
Author clairedunham Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 AAw **** all of you. You guys come here and cry and whine and call mommy about your own r/s and I cant do the same?! I've read and commented and this is what I get?! This is the first time I called in a week.
Sallygirl Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 AAw **** all of you. You guys come here and cry and whine and call mommy about your own r/s and I cant do the same?! I've read and commented and this is what I get?! This is the first time I called in a week. Why the anger, Claire? 1
Sallygirl Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 If you, no when you, overcome and move on, you will see how strong you are. My sincere admiration. You're amazing Thanks Soat. I really do appreciate it. One day at a time...
Author clairedunham Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 Not to you. Mntbiker3000 is a douche that's all.
LifeGoesOnMan Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Actually, I'm not that strong. It's really, really hard and definitely slowing my recovery process down. I really hate it. In fact, I just posted a thread a little bit ago about what a hard time I am having and how confused I am. It's hard... I'm in the same position, with an ex I was with for almost 7 years, lived with & worked with for 5 years. I understand 100%. I actually did almost straight up NC for over 40 days other than having to see her , in an office, 20ft away from me, nc broke because she recently sent me a long email apologizing for everything and we have went out to lunch once and have been talking/emailing/texting pretty regularly now...and possibly going out this weekend. The point is, if we can do NC , and have to actually work with them, you can do it completely without seeing them, it's just a question of will. You can do it, and you will heal, it's really the only way. and don't fret Sally, have faith, with time and a good dose of reality by refusing to pay any attention to them and letting yourself heal, you'll be amazed how the universe will reward you! Just wait & see 1
Soat Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Why the anger, Claire? You should read her other threads. She's very troubled about this breakup. Lots of us have been trying to help her stay on course and walk her through it. But some of her comments have prompted people to suggest she seek counseling to get through it.
Author clairedunham Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 Well. I am diagnosed with schizophrenia. There you happy
Sallygirl Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 and don't fret Sally, have faith, with time and a good dose of reality by refusing to pay any attention to them and letting yourself heal, you'll be amazed how the universe will reward you! Just wait & see I absolutely cannot wait for that day. He's reached out a few times and I've completely ignored him (Ive been doing NC for over 2 months now when possible) except for when I have to communicate with him for work issues. I'd give anything to not have to see him...
Soat Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Well. I am diagnosed with schizophrenia. There you happy This is very serious, and i am Sorry to hear. I hope you are getting help. Some meds out now really can help the condition.
LifeGoesOnMan Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I absolutely cannot wait for that day. He's reached out a few times and I've completely ignored him (Ive been doing NC for over 2 months now when possible) except for when I have to communicate with him for work issues. I'd give anything to not have to see him... Good! She did the same, sent me two emails before the apology email, One about wanting to get something from my apt, I said said "ya" and the other was a happy birthday one I said "Ty" that was it. Then 2 weeks later, I got the big ol' 180 email complete with everything but the "I want to get back together" because lets face it, they normally never come out and just say that, it's more of a progression from that email & then trying to let it come naturally from there. Just be strong, seriously, don't even look at him, I didnt and mine constantly walked by, trying to peek at my PC , go to a water cooler 3 ft from me, get tissues from a desk right next me when she has like 7 desks closer lol all the while she had a quick rebound and I just showed no emotion...silence is louder and more effective than anything you can say at this point. Stay strong.and if it's meant to be it will be 1
JDPT Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Sometimes I wish there was a heartbroken anonymous meetings. Claire, you need to get a good grip and if need be scream at the top of your lungs let it all out! I know how you feel, there are times when you feel as if the walls are closing in on you, anxiety takes over your entire mind and body and you wonder if you will ever make it out of this. We all have our ups and downs, we all have been so deeply in love beyond our wildest dreams and felt agonizing pain when our exes decided to let us go. Our lives crumbled, dreams shattered and uncertainty wringed the life out of us. As unfortunate as all this may sound, believe me that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and life does go on without our exes. It's an uphill battle every second of our lives. But the how we make it out of this is what defines us as survivors because that's what we already are. Breakups is not easy at all, it's perhaps one of the hardest events we will experience in our lifetime. Know that what you are currently feeling in time will subside and eventually dissipate and all we will have left are memories and perhaps chuckle at them but nothing more than that. We strive towards that, a simple chuckle with no pain attached to it. We are all here for you, be strong. 1
Author clairedunham Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 Sometimes I wish there was a heartbroken anonymous meetings. Claire, you need to get a good grip and if need be scream at the top of your lungs let it all out! I know how you feel, there are times when you feel as if the walls are closing in on you, anxiety takes over your entire mind and body and you wonder if you will ever make it out of this. We all have our ups and downs, we all have been so deeply in love beyond our wildest dreams and felt agonizing pain when our exes decided to let us go. Our lives crumbled, dreams shattered and uncertainty wringed the life out of us. As unfortunate as all this may sound, believe me that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and life does go on without our exes. It's an uphill battle every second of our lives. But the how we make it out of this is what defines us as survivors because that's what we already are. Breakups is not easy at all, it's perhaps one of the hardest events we will experience in our lifetime. Know that what you are currently feeling in time will subside and eventually dissipate and all we will have left are memories and perhaps chuckle at them but nothing more than that. We strive towards that, a simple chuckle with no pain attached to it. We are all here for you, be strong. This made me cry :''(. I remember when he used to be so head over heels for me and move mountains for me. I just didn't take care of myself. The only thing he prob wants to see is me letting go of him so he'll know he's losing me because I wish he was a guy I'd met in elementary. Personality wise we are alike in so many ways and so different at the same time. We just clicked. I remember dragging him by the hand to a secluded spot, when we weren't anything but neighbors and interested, where everyone used to hang out and just devour his lips and then go back to hanging out. He used to look at me like I was the greatest thing ever and he never wanted to let go. He used to tell me he'd never met anybody like me. Then I became ****in angry and just bipolar and paranoid and crazy
Jiminy Cricket Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I called after a week of break up yes.... He never responded... I need him back! I'm still crying and thought it stopped. I need him back. NC is not gonna work for me i did the same thing. mines responds though. its better if i didn't. you need to be strong, i know its hard but whatever you want to tell them, just keep it to yourself. trust me, it only pushes them away.
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 OP - Hey, I've been there too!! Lord knows I can relate to all of the BS attached to a BU. I'm not perfect. BUT, I have a stern opinion when it comes to those who break NC, because I know how damaging it can be. So, I motivate any way I can. Sometimes even through ridicule in hopes that I will light a fire!! Mission accomplished Seriously, I hope you feel better soon, because it does seem like you are pretty tore up right now. Sorry!!
JDPT Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 This made me cry :''(. I remember when he used to be so head over heels for me and move mountains for me. I just didn't take care of myself. The only thing he prob wants to see is me letting go of him so he'll know he's losing me because I wish he was a guy I'd met in elementary. Personality wise we are alike in so many ways and so different at the same time. We just clicked. I remember dragging him by the hand to a secluded spot, when we weren't anything but neighbors and interested, where everyone used to hang out and just devour his lips and then go back to hanging out. He used to look at me like I was the greatest thing ever and he never wanted to let go. He used to tell me he'd never met anybody like me. Then I became ****in angry and just bipolar and paranoid and crazy We have all done the unimaginable for our exes and if I start disclosing what I subscribed myself to just for her people would think that I've lost my mind and for a long while I did lose my mind and identity for her. We can all think of the "beautiful" moments we shared with our exes but reality is that it's all in the past where it belongs and should remain for good. I was dumped roughly 3.5 months ago out of a 5 year relationship. The first month I felt paralyzed but little by little I started moving a toe then a finger then my body and started to see that I was little by little recuperating from this devastating blow and pain my ex brough upon me. It will take time, I can attest that I'm nowhere near healed but its only up to us whether we want to fully heal or not. Find that inner strength to propel yourself day in and day out. Embrace the emotional roller coaster as crazy as it may sound and know that you just need to hang on as thight as you can and eventually the ride will come to an end and you will get off it to become a new and improved you.
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