dallet66 Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 I think I posted this in the wrong forum last time: I know this topic has been pursued a million times, but here's my "is he interested too" post. So, there's this guy at my work, were both nurses so we don't always work the same shift and don't work the same hall. We talk at report, shift change, lunch, whatever. Anyway, I've had a crush on him for a couple months now. He first started working at my facility in December. I found him annoying at first, but that changed over time. The thing is, since we don't have much chance to talk, I really can't get to know him that well at work, and I also have a couple other jobs there that aren't floor nurse. We aren't young, and we are both divorced and busy. I'm 42, he's 48. I really would kind of just like to get to know him, phone calls and such and become friends. See if there is something there. But under the circumstances, I don't want to look likean idiot if he's not interested. He's smart, but not particularly intuitive. Heres what I have for observations. On four separate occasions I've had coworkers, who were also friends, not some half stranger being nosey, ask me if this guy and I are in a relationship. I, of course, said no. Then asked why. None o them could put a real finger on why they thought that. The general statement was something like " just the way you two talk to each other and interact". A couple times I responded, he talks like that to everyone. Their answer was a firm" no he doesn't". The last time was from one of my friends I havnt worked with in awhile and probably only once briefly saw us chat in the hallway while doing end of shift counts. She never talks about this and was almost to embarrassed to ask. Evidently, they see something I don't, cause I don't get any obvious things fron him. Maybe we both suck at that. If he was intuitive, he'd realize I was interested. I say little things here or there, but I don't want to embarrass either of us. What should I think about what these people said? This last time was a shock, since she has seen minimal of us and never talks to the other people who said it. I don't know where to go from here. I really don't want to sit around with an indefinite crush, I feel too old for that. Is it possible that they thought that simply based on the way I act around him, without any response from him? Not saying he doesn't respond to me, of course he talks to me all the time This all seems so stupid, but I don't think I'm capable of simply standing there at lunch or whatever and saying "here's my number, call me". No way Anyone outside able to give me a bit of insight?
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