dallet66 Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 I know this topic has been pursued a million times, but here's my "is he interested too" post. So, there's this guy at my work, were both nurses so we don't always work the same shift and don't work the same hall. We talk at report, shift change, lunch, whatever. Anyway, I've had a crush on him for a couple months now. He first started working at my facility in December. I found him annoying at first, but that changed over time. The thing is, since we don't have much chance to talk, I really can't get to know him that well at work, and I also have a couple other jobs there that aren't floor nurse. We aren't young, and we are both divorced and busy. I'm 42, he's 48. I really would kind of just like to get to know him, phone calls and such and become friends. See if there is something there. But under the circumstances, I don't want to look likean idiot if he's not interested. He's smart, but not particularly intuitive. Heres what I have for observations. On four separate occasions I've had coworkers, who were also friends, not some half stranger being nosey, ask me if this guy and I are in a relationship. I, of course, said no. Then asked why. None o them could put a real finger on why they thought that. The general statement was something like " just the way you two talk to each other and interact". A couple times I responded, he talks like that to everyone. Their answer was a firm" no he doesn't". The last time was from one of my friends I havnt worked with in awhile and probably only once briefly saw us chat in the hallway while doing end of shift counts. She never talks about this and was almost to embarrassed to ask. Evidently, they see something I don't, cause I don't get any obvious things fron him. Maybe we both suck at that. If he was intuitive, he'd realize I was interested. I say little things here or there, but I don't want to embarrass either of us. What should I think about what these people said? This last time was a shock, since she has seen minimal of us and never talks to the other people who said it. I don't know where to go from here. I really don't want to sit around with an indefinite crush, I feel too old for that. Is it possible that they thought that simply based on the way I act around him, without any response from him? Not saying he doesn't respond to me, of course he talks to me all the time This all seems so stupid, but I don't think I'm capable of simply standing there at lunch or whatever and saying "here's my number, call me". No way Anyone outside able to give me a bit of insight?
todreaminblue Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Intuition tends to fly out the window and laugh at you on the way out, when you are interested in someone....when two people suck and have intuition fly out the window at the same time......you are left with two very confused people...my ex actually had to kiss me to let me know he was interested and i still thought he wasnt....even when he sang back to life back to reality in my ear after he kissed me i just stood there like a stunned mullet thinking did he just kiss me he cant really like me that way can he? two weeks followed of no idea what to do...and then i asked him out.............i am also not very bright when i like someone...its the window,laughing intuition thing........ i would suggest and really, i am often in the same boat as you are, paddling away in denial with some confusion thrown in to rock the boat,i suggest that you try to talk to him more,every opportunity take it, so it becomes easier to just be yourself, when you get to know someone better, you are able to converse more naturally ......takes me eons.....but it does work... make him feel comfortable, talk about common interests or passions,try to get him to feel at ease, so he can make the move...lol.....i normally wait fro a guy to ask or show he likes me, rejection by anyone for me is an issue.even though i am stoic and appear to take it.......it cuts deep for me, makes me feel like a little girl.......again...some place i dont want to revisit......but i get over it...and i have had trauma with this.so if i can you can...... try not to worry so much......if others have noticed then....it is most likely there is mutual attraction vibing in body language....unless they can hear you speak of course............just keep talking and finding opportunities to interact with him...and i wish you all the best...hugs...deb
Author dallet66 Posted August 26, 2013 Author Posted August 26, 2013 Trust me, I talk to him every chance I get. I asked him about the vacation he was taking and he told me about it. If there's a chance to talk in any form that doesn't take away from our work, I find it. He seems to think I know everything and always ask me silly questions that he should know the answer to. I don't know. I havnt seen him in two weeks because he went on vacation and we also worked different days. I'll b working the same shift with him this coming fri-Monday. I'll be charge nurse, but I only do that on call when they take vacation, I'm not a boss. Thanks for your response. I know what your saying. I feel like I have no clue, about him anyway. Work stuff I'm pretty darn good at. Lol 1
todreaminblue Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Trust me, I talk to him every chance I get. I asked him about the vacation he was taking and he told me about it. If there's a chance to talk in any form that doesn't take away from our work, I find it. He seems to think I know everything and always ask me silly questions that he should know the answer to. I don't know. I havnt seen him in two weeks because he went on vacation and we also worked different days. I'll b working the same shift with him this coming fri-Monday. I'll be charge nurse, but I only do that on call when they take vacation, I'm not a boss. Thanks for your response. I know what your saying. I feel like I have no clue, about him anyway. Work stuff I'm pretty darn good at. Lol smilin.....i have a really high iq......when he is around.......i have no brain at all.......know how you feel....i was getting better though.....feeling more comfortable.......but i have let it go....i think i annoy him....i hope that you dont give up however and please write when you get to go out on your hot date and i am open to making a three layer wedding cake or beign your dj at yoru wedding reception free of charge......all the best things in life are always free...:bunny:..and i have an empathic way o fknowing exactly the right music to play..... if i get an invite that is.....is that too far ahead...i am kidding......smilin atcha...good luck....deb 1
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