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i'm 24 years old guy, my love experiences always end in rejection(i never had a girlfriend), i'm not attractive because i was born with a defect in my nose. besides there is no girl near of my who have similar hobbies(video games , internet, technology, science, alos i'm a software developer) or beliefs(i'm atheist and almost all girls seems christians and rejected me) and although i try to fit or please them well i always end alone and hurted, and now that i trying to find someone, all girls seem in a relationship already(i don't want to steal anyone's girl, besides is unlikely that i could do that not only because i don't wan't also because i can't) and well all this depress me.

 

I don't have real friends to really count, my family is pretty unsupportive(except in the economical way more less they help me alot but in other matter we don't get along) so i want a girlfriend who supports me emotionally because i need help but no one who i know can help me...if this keep like this maybe someday i get really tired and commit suicide.(PD i don't have money or time for psycologisth and also along tim ago went also bythis topic but nothing got better after all)

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] I don't have real friends to really count, my family is pretty unsupportive(except in the economical way more less they help me alot but in other matter we don't get along) so i want a girlfriend who supports me emotionally because i need help but no one who i know can help me...if this keep like this maybe someday i get really tired and commit suicide.

 

The bolded line stuck out to me the greatest.

 

A girlfriend is supposed to enrich your life, not support it. You need to figure yourself out before you can figure other people out.

 

Girls want a confident guy, not a sick puppy.

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Is there a hotline you can call that's free? to talk to someone?

 

Firstly, I think finding a girlfriend to emotionally support you is a bad idea. Women are emotional beings and they get mad, sad, happy, excited in 60 seconds. I'm a woman. I know. You have to know how to deal with your own depression and feelings first. You are a software developer and have intelligence in being able to create a career for yourself. Perhaps you're looking in the wrong places if all the girls you are current meeting are from a different religious background. You cannot change your beliefs unless you want to and believe in the changes you are making to suit other people. Changing who you are to have someone won't make you happy. Being who you are and having someone will.

 

I suggest finding a hot line so you can call and talk to someone or perhaps look at any health benefits you may have through your software development work to see if you can see a counsellor. Good luck.

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El Brujo Established Member

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A girlfriend is supposed to enrich your life, not support it.

 

She is also not supposed to wreck it. That's one reason why I'm still single.

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since you have video games as a hobby, why not make friends online? I think you really need that social support before anything, and it may not be as healthy if all of it was on one person. I mean, if that one person ended up leaving you, for whatever the reason, you'd be wrecked. But if you start making friends, and maybe start improving your social skills, even if you lose some of those friends, your improved social skills may help you find true long term friends and/or girlfriend later on.

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Get a Therapist to support you,

 

A girlfriend/Partner over time will emotionally support, but that takes alot of time and built up trust, they want fun first.

 

You will be fine, everyone normally is, just go to a therapist to get the emotional stuff out.

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I say get comfortable with being 'with yourself' firstly before mixing anyone else into all that.

 

.. but I am a loner by nature. I LOVE being with myself! You get more done. Partners, children and all that take up a lot off emotional energy and time you know. Gosh, enjoy being single.

 

Having someone special to share life with is a highly beautiful gift. Don't covet it otherwise you'll get a ****ed up version. Well, that is the case in my observations and experience.

 

So if you are in fact lonely, deal with that yourself firstly methinks. Otherwise you are going to be miserable until such time as you meet someone.

 

Some level of honesty is needed if you are going to progress though. Mainly admitting whether you are a miserable person or not. Relationships can't cure that **** and you will only drag the other person down if you are a misery guts.

 

Have a medical asap and cheer up a bit. Life isn't that bad.

 

Take care,

Eve x

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