jcrew11 Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 I was hoping some women can answer this: Do guys need to be "really interesting" to build attraction with women? Sure, some men can be good-looking, and quietly confident. But does a guy need to be a "high energy fun and interesting man" to attract women? Sometimes, I feel this is the equivalent of a "party girl/guy personality" where you spend a lot of energy being the 'center of attention' and it can get you a one night stand. But this "high energy, fun/crazy guy" is not good for building lasting no-drama relationships.
Philosoraptor Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Yes, everyone needs to be interesting to the person they are dating in order to build any attraction. Looks might be good for the night, but won't be enough of a foundation for anything longer. 1
man_in_the_box Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 You definitely don't need to be a 'party guy/girl' to be a genuinly interesting person. EDIT: sorry for the lack of vagina 1
KathyM Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 There's a lot of things that can build attraction. You don't have to be this super entertaining guy who cracks jokes every minute. What will build attraction is showing interest in the other person. Getting them to talk about themselves, and having some interests of your own that you can share about and maybe introduce her to. Showing her a fun time is also a good way to build attraction. A woman will enjoy being with you if you enjoy doing fun things, show interest in getting to know her, and come across as a guy who has his act together and a direction in life.
tbf Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 "Really interesting" is subjective so it's worthwhile if only for the purposes of self-improvement, to be diverse in interest. This way, you won't get caught flat-footed with unfamiliar topics. The above is quite helpful when in any polite company form of socialization.
Versacehottie Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 I was hoping some women can answer this: Do guys need to be "really interesting" to build attraction with women? Sure, some men can be good-looking, and quietly confident. But does a guy need to be a "high energy fun and interesting man" to attract women? Sometimes, I feel this is the equivalent of a "party girl/guy personality" where you spend a lot of energy being the 'center of attention' and it can get you a one night stand. But this "high energy, fun/crazy guy" is not good for building lasting no-drama relationships. Yes to build and KEEP attraction with a quality woman, really interesting is one of most important things. Doesn't have to be "high energy fun or party personality"....in fact, a lot of girls don't like that. And some are weary, just as you said that this personality can be difficult in relationships. People have varying opinions of what they find interesting. Even the same woman can be find several types of personalities interesting to her...sometimes just because, sometimes at different points in her life. Like if i just had difficult time with a party guy, i might seek out someone more quietly confident and responsible for the very next relationship. ON TOP OF ALL that, I think one of the most important things a person can do to BE interesting is BE INTERESTED....Showing interest in the object of your affection makes you interesting in itself and builds your connection. Feeling that someone else "gets" you makes you believe the other person is special because it's a reflection of how you see yourself. Good feelings beget more good feelings.
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