bcm235 Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 So i thought i would post how i am feeling. Its been 2 and a half months since i broke up with my on/off girlfriend of two years and its been 5 weeks nc from both parties. Im finding things tough right now. I know she wasn't right for me. Her constant tears, tantrums and extreme jealousy were just too much. And no matter how hard i tried i was never good enough. We had been apart for 4 months last time after nearly a year together. We started hanging out as friends but gradually we got close again. The first time we were together she would get very jealous of me talking to females (even family members!). She began cutting herself, became bulimic but i remained patient because i loved her so much. I moved away for a job and eventually the distance and her boundary issues (she had a lot of guy friends who would shower her with gifts, try it on with her and she would often get jealous when they went near other girls!) and it became too much so we split. The second time was better. She was more chilled out and less jealous but became more demanding. I was very hands off and wanted to take it slow. On the surface i probably didnt treat her as well as i should because i feared she would become like she was the first time. Then after 6 months she said she didnt feel the same anymore and felt she needed to work on her issues. I agreed that i had mixed feelings about our future so we ended. Ive seen her once since and i just felt awkward and more low after. She told me about this exciting new 'friend' who was a personal trainer but whom she said she had no intention of dating. Again this reminded me of her boundary issues and the fact that she cant bear to be alone. She always needs a man around trying to impress her. Its now almost coming up to our longest nc ever! I guess i kinda wish we never got back together as this time it feels so much more final. I know she isnt right for me and i know if i check her facebook it will make me feel worse so though i get tempted i avoid it. I have even had a date and started texting a new girl but i know im not ready for anything serious. I just wish things were different. That i could see my ex as a friend or hope that we meet in 10 years and she will have grown and changed. I do miss her but i know things can never be.
Soat Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 She's got some SERIOUS psychological issues. You're MUCH better off without her. Eating disorders are VERY bad news, and those with them have massive problems with relationships. She needs REAL help, you don't want to be caught up in her mess. Read my link below, specifically about taking a HARD look at the person you're leaving behind...
Author bcm235 Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 Everything you say SOAT is so true. I think the fact that she is so mentally unstable and vulnerable makes me care more. No matter how much I know we will never be right in a relationship context I just want her to deal with her issues and be ok.
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