theedge Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 Hey all, Just wondering if someone is too easy going and affectionate will dating/relationship go stale? This isn't really so much relating to me though just a question. I will admit I am very easy going and it can frustrate my girlfriend that she will give me a choice of 2 things to do and I say "It doesn't matter to me" or I reply with "What do you want to do?". She worries that I want to do one choice but won't speak up, but really I don't care lol I am at a point now where if she gives me 2 choices I just pick one to cease her frustration that I can't help make a decsion. The other is too affectionate I guess also under clingy. Its a bit weird how in the past I was very clingy but with her I think about it. I always said I wanted someone affectionate in my life because I would feel wanted. I had that in the begining of the year and it drove me up the wall! Maybe thats why I am not like that because I know exactly how it feels to be on the recieving end. What are your opinions? Ever had that ultra clingy person in your life? Have a ex or present SO that can't make a decsion on thier own when it comes to choices of dates, what to eat for dinner or if they say something like do you like this shirt or that one better on me?
zara Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 i think lots of people are easy going with stuff they don't see as important, like i am a vegetarian and as long as it doesn't have meat in it whatever is cool with me, unless i have a craving for something then i am not afraid to speak up about it. The guy i have just started seeing offered to coook for me and so we went to the supermarket together and as we decided what groceries to get he was asking me prompting questions like "If you could go anywhere in the woerld to eat where would you want to go?" I just looked at him like he was crazy and he apaologized and explained that he was used to dating girls alot younger who could never make up tyheir mind cuz they didn't want to have an opinion he wouldn't like! I know that some people do that, sit through films they don't like, eat food they don't like, and a whole host of things becasue they are too scared to voice an opinion! I mean, i appreciate someone being considerate to my tastes but at the same time i am able to voice my desires when appropriate - it sounds as though you are the same way. As for the affection thing, again, the guy i have just started to see is a lot more physically restrained than other relationships i've had, but i think i've matured because i really do appreciate not being slobbered over like a teenager.
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