Ladyrascalz Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 My bf of two years is literally cheating in front of my eyes. It stinks to watch it. I've been dating this guy for 2 years, I was his first and he said he loved me so much. I put so much work into this relationship. I was always there for him. I don't understand what I did. Anyway, we broke up recently for a month because I felt like he didn't appreciate me. He begged for me to come back saying that he'd change. When we got back together I realized he was really distant, wouldn't call, wouldn't come see me. He hasn't seen me in a month. Not like him. I questioned him about it and he said no, everything is fine. I would see this girl on his instagram and she'd be like "that's my cutie" or "babe" but he'd constantly tell me it's nobody, i'm not with her, next thing you know he's posting pictures with her everywhere. I sent him one of the pictures and i'm like yeah "yeah she's nobody" Just tell whats going on? Are you cheating? .. no response. I asked him so many times I feel like a fool. I've left him. I'm so sad and depressed about it. I feel like nothing. I don't know what to do or how to feel and I guess I just need some listening ears to vent to.
theonlyjuan Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 He don't deserve you! It's as simple as that, bless you for trying so hard. Well done for breaking it off. You will meet someone who appreciates you! Don't be discouraged, not all us guys are like that. But yeah, vent away
Philosoraptor Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Did he do this after you broke it off? If so, he's not cheating and you have no reason to be jealous. Regardless, if you're not happy with things then you were right to end them. Now you have to let him go and move on for yourself. Hopefully with time and patience you will find someone you feel treats you right.
Author Ladyrascalz Posted August 26, 2013 Author Posted August 26, 2013 Did he do this after you broke it off? If so, he's not cheating and you have no reason to be jealous. Regardless, if you're not happy with things then you were right to end them. Now you have to let him go and move on for yourself. Hopefully with time and patience you will find someone you feel treats you right. Nope we broke it off for a month. Then he came begging to take him back, NOW he's doing this. He can't even be a man and tell me what's happening.
Author Ladyrascalz Posted August 26, 2013 Author Posted August 26, 2013 how is he cheating literally in front of your eyes? is he banging this new broad on your sofa as you play solitare? Um lol I meant he's doing it where he doesn't care if I see it 1
Author Ladyrascalz Posted August 26, 2013 Author Posted August 26, 2013 He don't deserve you! It's as simple as that, bless you for trying so hard. Well done for breaking it off. You will meet someone who appreciates you! Don't be discouraged, not all us guys are like that. But yeah, vent away Yeah, I mean it sucks because you put all this effort. I was his first and I wanted to try whatever I could in order to make it work out. He was disrespectful, mean, he has a temper. He threw coffee on me, one time he got pretty upset. He just betrayed my trust and made me feel so insecure. I turned into another person. NOW he's doing this and I feel like he expects to still be apart of my life. These awful people always try to come back.. unfortunately
Philosoraptor Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Nope we broke it off for a month. Then he came begging to take him back, NOW he's doing this. He can't even be a man and tell me what's happening. I'm sorry but if he tried to come back, you rejected him, and is now seeing someone else... he's not cheating. He's moving on and his life is no longer any of your business. I'm not saying you were wrong for dumping him at all, but he's certainly not cheating now either.
Author Ladyrascalz Posted August 26, 2013 Author Posted August 26, 2013 I'm sorry but if he tried to come back, you rejected him, and is now seeing someone else... he's not cheating. He's moving on and his life is no longer any of your business. I'm not saying you were wrong for dumping him at all, but he's certainly not cheating now either. Lol no we got back together and he's doing this. After he begged I took him back. While we're together he's cheating. I feel like I said that
Zahara Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Yeah, I mean it sucks because you put all this effort. I was his first and I wanted to try whatever I could in order to make it work out. He was disrespectful, mean, he has a temper. He threw coffee on me, one time he got pretty upset. He just betrayed my trust and made me feel so insecure. I turned into another person. NOW he's doing this and I feel like he expects to still be apart of my life. These awful people always try to come back.. unfortunately These awful people come back because people like you chose to accept bad treatment over and over again. Why wouldn't awful people use that to their advantage and keep coming back to use you for their benefit? And why does it have to be something you did for him to be this way? Maybe he's just a douchebag?
Philosoraptor Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Lol no we got back together and he's doing this. After he begged I took him back. While we're together he's cheating. I feel like I said that My mistake, I must have missed that. Either way, you've only gained freedom as you "lost" nothing but a cheater. 1
lonegirl Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Um lol I meant he's doing it where he doesn't care if I see it Because he's doing this to revenge. You dropped him, now he is trying to punish you. You should act as careless as possible, start no contact and move on. He's a complete jerk. 1
Author Ladyrascalz Posted August 26, 2013 Author Posted August 26, 2013 These awful people come back because people like you chose to accept bad treatment over and over again. Why wouldn't awful people use that to their advantage and keep coming back to use you for their benefit? And why does it have to be something you did for him to be this way? Maybe he's just a douchebag? I completely understand what you're staying and you are absolutely right about those points. I don't plan on taking him back. I don't know why i'm saying it's something I did because I tried my very best and like you say some people are just DOUCHBAGS. I just wish he could at least let me know this is what is happening. Give me that much respect to be a man about it and say I'm doing this this and this ..
Author Ladyrascalz Posted August 26, 2013 Author Posted August 26, 2013 Because he's doing this to revenge. You dropped him, now he is trying to punish you. You should act as careless as possible, start no contact and move on. He's a complete jerk. Yeah? I didn't think of that reason why. I mean I don't really care why he's done it because there's no excuse for it. I wonder if these people ever really change. I will act careless, no contact and just move the hell on but not because I want to hurt him or anything just for myself because it's better for him to not have someone like that in my life 1
Zahara Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 I just wish he could at least let me know this is what is happening. Give me that much respect to be a man about it and say I'm doing this this and this .. Well, he's showing you what he's doing. As you said, he's not even hiding. And you know it's wrong. Why do you need him to let you know? And why would he give you respect now? He was mean, DISRESPECTFUL, and had a temper during your relationship, even threw coffee at you (your own words) so now you want him to suddenly know the concept of respect and give that to you? See how illogical you sound? I know you are hurt but really think about what you are asking and hoping for. 2
KathyM Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 It sounds like he was a pretty crappy boyfriend if he abuses you, cheats on you, and disrespects you so much, not to mention neglects you as well. Good riddance to him. He's not worth the time you are spending thinking about him. He sounds like my sister's second ex husband. He was nice in the beginning of the relationship, but later became very neglectful, and when they separated, he begged her to come back, claiming to be sincere and even going to marriage counseling, all the while keeping in touch with other women. A very insincere man who wanted to keep his options open in case it didn't work out with the reconciliation. Nope, doesn't work that way. Either you're all in, or you're all out, unless there is mutual agreement that you are no longer exclusive, and it sounds like there was no such agreement between the two of you. It sounds like your guy was keeping his options open as well, and continuing to neglect you, while claiming to be faithful. Good riddance, that's all I can say.
lonegirl Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 He was nice in the beginning of the relationship, but later became very neglectful, and when they separated, he begged her to come back, claiming to be sincere and even going to marriage counseling, all the while keeping in touch with other women. This sounds like my last ex a lot! Begging to come back and meanwhile chatting around with other women, etc. And plus the fact he was abusive towards me, is a clear sign of a man that has zero respect for their partner. Run away!
yessy21 Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Forget him! He is so scared of being alone he has to lie to you... just in case it doesn't work out with her. that should tell you all.
Author Ladyrascalz Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 Forget him! He is so scared of being alone he has to lie to you... just in case it doesn't work out with her. that should tell you all. Ugh you're so right! He's so afraid that it won't work out between him and his new venture so he can't admit it and honestly it probably wont. Knowing him, he's great in the start but all in all he's a crappy guy. If he ever comes crawling back, I CANNOT wait to let him down!!
Author Ladyrascalz Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 It sounds like he was a pretty crappy boyfriend if he abuses you, cheats on you, and disrespects you so much, not to mention neglects you as well. Good riddance to him. He's not worth the time you are spending thinking about him. He sounds like my sister's second ex husband. He was nice in the beginning of the relationship, but later became very neglectful, and when they separated, he begged her to come back, claiming to be sincere and even going to marriage counseling, all the while keeping in touch with other women. A very insincere man who wanted to keep his options open in case it didn't work out with the reconciliation. Nope, doesn't work that way. Either you're all in, or you're all out, unless there is mutual agreement that you are no longer exclusive, and it sounds like there was no such agreement between the two of you. It sounds like your guy was keeping his options open as well, and continuing to neglect you, while claiming to be faithful. Good riddance, that's all I can say. Kathy THIS SOUNDS EXACTLY LIKE MY EX!!!! EXACTLY just very insincere. You used the right works. Thanks for the experience and sharing !!!
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