How do you actually let go? I want to but don't know how to.

[Emma1234]

I desperately want to let go of my ex now. I'm sick of missing him now. I know that I'm probably always going to love the person he was even though he has changed so much.

 

I'm ready to let go now, it has been nearly 4 months post break up. No contact for about 6 weeks. I just don't know how to?

[Philosoraptor]

Take care of yourself and shift your focus onto yourself versus putting it on your ex. It can be a slow process, and there are a lot of ups and downs, but in time you will feel it get much easier.

 

Be patient and continue to work at it.

[Soat]

I desperately want to let go of my ex now. I'm sick of missing him now. I know that I'm probably always going to love the person he was even though he has changed so much.

 

I'm ready to let go now, it has been nearly 4 months post break up. No contact for about 6 weeks. I just don't know how to?

 

Sounds to me you're about to do just that... often being sick of the sadness is the final step

[Legatus]

I think sometimes we try too hard to have that one defining moment when we officially let go. It came to to me gradually, with a lot of preparation of course and groundwork. At some point I realised I don't count no-contact days anymore, that I don't miss her or even the relationship.

 

Allow yourself to feel whatever you need and the change will come. Don't try to pinpoint the moment of letting go. It's a process... What have you done in the past weeks to boost that process?

[unexpectedlyhere]

Cultivate a mindset of abundance. Don't think he was your only shot at happiness, and you've lost it. Think you have a whole life of shots at happiness ahead of you, whether by yourself or with others.

There's so much still ahead of you in terms of time, experiences, people to meet, things you will learn about yourself, things you will learn about the world. Think of those. He'll fade away.