JustAnotherz Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Hi Everyone, I had ended this relationship 2 month ago. We are both 24 years old. We were together for 7 years having 5 years in the same country while 2 years LDR. She came back for winter break every year. This year she came back as well and was weird during the first week. She kept blaming me for minor stuff and ask if we still got anything in common. Till the second week, I discover an email containing the chat log she was having with a guy while clearing her junk mail. She was cheating on me for like 3 months before she return. So I told her we should break up. However, we already had this oversea trip planned with our friends and doesn't want to disappoint our friend by cancelling it, we went ahead. On the first day I already told myself I won't get back with her. However she continue to hold my hand while walking and lying on my shoulder when travelling. I pushed her away initially but she keep coming back. So in the end I gave in and even intimate with her at night. I know its my fault that I couldn't control my emotion and sexual thought. During the 3rd day of the trip, she told me she will break up with that guy. However when she typed to him the break up message, she cried and that guy sent messages like "I am jumping of ledges" & "I did not success as policemen caught me". So I took her phone and told that guy I am the one who used the phone to type the break up message not her. Last day of the trip, I told her that she could tell her family that the break up is due to my fault as I don't want her to argue with her family or look down by them. Since I am not meeting her family any more, nothing much will happen to me. I admitted I tried to chase her back for 2 weeks after returning as I don't believe the other guy is able to take care of her and feel that he is trying to get her accompany (physically) while studying oversea. But she always reply me "I dont know", "dont stress me" and etc. I know its my fault trying to get her back but I hope you guys understand everyone did this phase before and I am no different, I couldn't control my feeling. Soon I give up and stop contacting her. However only about 4 days of no contact, she message me "hows school" , "you dont love me anymore?", "I still miss you", "I cry everytime i see you photo". And recently my friend posted all photo while I am with them on facebook, she saw it and message me "Enoy yourself? thanks for going out with friends, i need not worry anymore, I can leave this world in peace". She got influence too much by that immature guy and now she even type this type of sentence? So I replied her.. (my fault to break no contact again) "oh" "yea" "lol". Anyway my purpose for this post is to ask should I still reply her if I want to save this relationship. I understand LDR is hard... but its just one year more till she complete her studies. Any recommendation of what I can do? I know people will say thing like give up on her.. she cheated on you. But will it work out if I can forgive her which I already did. Why do she keep contacting me even I never reply her for days. Anyway what does bread crumble in here mean? Don't know if I spell it correctly.
Philosoraptor Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 She made the choice to cheat, simple as that. It wasn't forced and she had every ability to stop that. If you can forgive her, get past any jealousy, and be able to trust her again... yes it can work out. But you need to take the time to figure that out before you jump back into anything.
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