number122 Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Simple story: I've slept with a girl, who just recently traveled here for a long vacation. (I work abroad, and she moved to a hotel really close to me) There was an immediate force between us and it kept building up till we shared a bed one night. Thing is...after three days from our first night together she was sitting in front of my PC, watching her facebook as she showed me pictures of herself/her buddies. Suddenly a message window pops-up, it was her boyfriend. The guy practically begged her to talk and respond. She closed it as soon as she could, without answering. She flatline ignored him, as he was trying to reach out for her. Later she told me that they are together now for 1,5 months and that she loves him very much, but their sexlife is dead ( after 1,5 months??!). They didn't broke up or anything like that. So, first. I got used again. Second, after the 4th day, she was barely unable to withhold herself from crying as she said it to me that how hard she loves me and wants to be with me. (young) Women are cruel beings. Extremely cruel. I didn't sleep with her after I found out she has a bf. The scary thing is, she changed feelings sooo, almost too easily, while ignoring the guy, who was totally in love with her as if he was nothing. Then I realized, my ex whom she broke up with me 6 months ago, was acting the same. I didn't begged her and such, but that...cold attitude towards me was the same. Ignoring others, because they do not "provide"/"generate" the same feelings anymore. He was no longer any "use" to her. How can (young) women be so cruel and selfish? How can they act like this? Like those feelings are worth nothing, and the only thing that matters is what does she feel NOW and WHO makes her like that. I heard stories, I saw a few ones too, but this was the second time for me, to actually experience this (this time from the other side, whom she cheated with..). I've always had the belief that you should respect women and love for what they are. But all I see is cruelty, selfishness, ignorance and the thinking of "how he will benefit to me" and "how can I use them". And the worst? Its subconscious. It's not a simple will. They are doing this fully naturally. Are women truly like this? Or am I just unlucky? The saying " men feels love, women think about it" is true? How can I respect that? How can I love such a thing? My ex broke my trust towards women, and now this girl trampled my faith and my respect I felt for them (not fully, but quite hard..) There are others, I'm sure. "Nice girls", bless them if they exist at all. Hope I meet one at least once in my lifetime. She traveled back to our country, to her bf who probably knows nothing. I feel extremely sorry for the poor guy. He probably just wanted a girl who loves him as deeply, as he loves her. I thought I would share this story of mine, maybe somebody had the same experience, maybe someone who walked the same paths as me and found his pair whom she restored his faith and trust towards women or simply accepted it that women are "built like this". I wonder what's the end of this "road".
todreaminblue Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 There is cruelty on both sides of the fence i am afraid.......men can be cruel, cold, controlling and vicious too........then one day, in your future, someone crosses your path who is kind sweet compassionate everything that you ever thought was beautiful in a person and your faith is restored in humanity or if you want to have a quick fix today...look at a photograph of your mum or your aunt or your sister and think these were young woman once who were sweet and loving...... i am sorry you found someone who was selfish and unfaithful to her partner.......not all women are cut from the same cloth.......like all men arent the same way.......good luck to you and i hope you find someone special next time who is truthful from the get go......deb 3
white Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Contrefaire has the right of it. My mom only ever gave me one piece of input about girls, and it wasn't encouraging, but it did help me understand what on earth was going on until I got older. She told me in my teens after I probably expressed the same confusion and disappointment you just did, that basically young women are cruel and capricious and I should forget about bothering with them until we're all in our mid twenties. It didn't stop me of course, but she was right, and she wasn't being sexist, young men are the same but that wasn't what we were talking about. The difference between women I was with before my mid twenties, those after, and those I have met since then who were younger (I've never dated younger) is night and day. I can even see it in my own sister, who is 5 years younger than me. She's just reached her mid twenties and she's incredibly more mature and reasonable than she used to be in her relationships. We lived together for quite a while and the childish crap both her and her boyfriends used to go through for no apparent reason was in turns amusing and disgusting to me. The blubbering conversations, the tantrums, they took so seriously like their worlds were ending were so asinine, meaningless, lacking in any substance a sane person could understand the effort spent arguing about. Both sexes seem to need at least half their twenties today to learn to be kind, understanding and tolerant with each other. Until then they seem to think life is like a TV soap, probably because that's all they know.
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