chezron Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 My husband asked me for a divorce. He works and I do not. I am currently a student. He said he would maintain status quo, but he hasn't. I use one credit card to buy food, gas and essentials. He lowered the maximum and then charged $1000 dollars on leather goods and maxed out the card, so I can't use it. This is NOT status quo. I still was able to use money from our joint account to buy food and copy paperwork for my lawyer, but he is going to freeze the account, leaving me with nothing but my meager savings to live on. Get this, he is an Airline Pilot who makes $25,000 a month and he wants me to have nothing. What should I do? How soon can I get temporary spousal support?
Balzac Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Greetings and welcome to LS. How many years married and why hasn't your lawyer explained this to you? Kids?
revitup Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 chezron,sorry you are one of us now.Welcome to the world of ? He is screwed! Pilots are generally very anal retentive and arrogant-Most not all! When he is front of a judge he will buck at anyone telling him what to do or demanding answers.If you were married for any length of time-you will get your share of it all. More to the story? REVITUP
Mr. Lucky Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 My husband asked me for a divorce. He works and I do not. I am currently a student. I've got a couple of friends that are airline pilots and a more wandering group - literally and figuratively - has never existed. Since you sound younger, I might guess you're not wife #1? Mr. Lucky 1
2sure Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Since he is making more than six times commercial pilots and even way more than a captain, I'm guessing your lawyer will be able to get you immediate spousal support to buy groceries. Pilots themselves are usually hourly workers that have to fudge their records if they are flying private. If you have any info regarding that, it would be important to him. 3
Balzac Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Emergency petition for temporary support is rapidly heard. It's common and your lawyer can enter it Monday.
revitup Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Since he is making more than six times commercial pilots and even way more than a captain, I'm guessing your lawyer will be able to get you immediate spousal support to buy groceries. Pilots themselves are usually hourly workers that have to fudge their records if they are flying private. If you have any info regarding that, it would be important to him. Great points.... Very important distinction- Private vs Commercial and Right seat vs Left seat! The pilots I know are Private BTW....they are really quite a bunch.Great buddies mostly,just always right. Private also means they are always "on call" and it's hard to know their whereabouts and financial arrangements with the "boss". Lots of perks too,these will prove harder to find out. A pilot will always go by a "checklist",make sure you have yours because he will follow his to the letter.You are already way behind him now. REVITUP 1
2sunny Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Go to the bank and move money from the joint account into one in your name only - right away. Copy tax returns...and keep them where he can't access YOUR copy. The attorney will need these. Try to get copies of his pay stubs. Open a credit card in your name only for now - so that you have some credit to work with while you obtain a monthly amount through the courts. Ask the court right away to order temporary spousal support to be paid to you through his employer - paid directly to you. Hurry, no time to waste. Sorry for your pain...
Imported Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Airline pilots do not make any where near $25k a month. What money have you put in to the marriage? Did you payroll his training as a commercial pilot? If not, what makes you think he should continue paying for you to have an education? Why don't you get a job?
revitup Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Airline pilots do not make any where near $25k a month. What money have you put in to the marriage? Did you payroll his training as a commercial pilot? If not, what makes you think he should continue paying for you to have an education? Why don't you get a job? Some make more! Normally...nope.Evidently this one does. She is most likely entitled to keep the standard of living to which she has become accustomed-as can reasonably be obtained. This of course because of the support she has provided her husband , enabling him to earn $25,000.00. REVITUP
revitup Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Oh yeah, If she gets 10k per month in alimony.... She may give you a job! REVITUP 1
Author chezron Posted August 26, 2013 Author Posted August 26, 2013 Yes, commercial airline pilots, captains on large aircraft, DO make that kind of money. I am not young. He talked me into quitting my job to get a degree in something i love. Except he forgot to tell me he would leave me for his flight surgeon's wife.
Balzac Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 He didn't forget. Seems his goal was to begin your rehabilitation to enter the work force during the marriage. I hope you're interviewing lawyers.
Balzac Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 LSers have no idea what state she's in but the prevailing attitude of law is no fault divorce. A few states require a year of separation but that's very few. In most states marital income means splitting assets equally. That includes debt. Uneducated, long term wives, can be awarded monies for rehabilitation. At worst she may need to apply for financial aid, take out a loan to continue her classes for this semester but I'm guessing the due date for tuition is after any emergency petition for temporary support. Long marriage, high net worth, her lifestyle won't change much. It's all about tax planning during the asset split.
PoopHappens Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 I've got a couple of friends that are airline pilots and a more wandering group - literally and figuratively - has never existed. Since you sound younger, I might guess you're not wife #1? Mr. Lucky Did you guys go see Flight with Denzel W to get this experience.
PoopHappens Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Did you guys go see Flight with Denzel W to get this experience. I looked up divorce by profession and pilots come in at 10.96% WAY below the average and far down the table of professions.
Mr. Lucky Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 I looked up divorce by profession and pilots come in at 10.96% WAY below the average and far down the table of professions. Divorce and infidelity are two different things... Mr. Lucky 1
PoopHappens Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Divorce and infidelity are two different things... Mr. Lucky Mr. Lucky, yes indeed they are but I have to think there is some relationship between the two.
revitup Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 mr. Lucky, yes indeed they are but i have to think there is some relationship between the two. nope revitup
PoopHappens Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 nope revitup Really? I find this interesting and apologize for high-jacking the thread. In my simple way of thinking, it would seem to me that the more you fool around, the greater chance you will get caught, the greater the chance of divorce. OR is it because pilots can be more places than most people and therefor have more out of town opportunities?
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