snilljente Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 How long is too long to wait for someone to call you back...I am dating a couple of guys right now, neither seriously, but sometimes when they call me and I call them back (I almost never call them first) and I get their voice mail and have to leave a message, they wait a while to call me back...sometimes they call back right away....if for example a guy calls me at 7:30...leaves me a message...I call him back at 8:30..have to leave him a message...how long is TOO LONG to wait for him to call back..and WHY did he call in the first place, if he isn't even going to bother calling back within 24 hours? Is this a sign that he's not into me? but he KEEPS calling....I don't get it..Input?!
bluechocolate Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 but he KEEPS calling....I don't get it..Input?! What don't you "get"? If he keeps calling then I would say he's interested. Do you call guys that you're not interested in? Anyway, I don't get it either - sometimes they call you back sooner, sometimes later - just sounds like normal life to me. If you're dating a couple of guys at the same time then there is no obligation on anyones part to subscribe to some formula about frequency of contact - you take what you get until you're ready to commit. Isn't that all part of the dating game?
theedge Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 I hate dating games! lol I always got freaked out as to what was normal. Im sure sometimes I came across as sweating desperation though lol Doesn't matter now I have a girlfriend lol
Majik45 Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 If they're not dating you seriously, maybe they have other things going on in there life. Maybe they don't have time to just call and chit chat within 24 hours. I know sometimes I'm on the go non-stop from start until finish. You should at least allow 2 days in my opinion, especially if it's just dating.
Author snilljente Posted November 12, 2004 Author Posted November 12, 2004 Ok...it sounds like I might just need to relax...I got VERY spoiled this summer...dated someone (seriously and exclusively though) who was very attentive...he ended up cheating on me...ugh..but was otherwise the most PERFECT gentleman I ever dated...sounds weird I know...I wouldn't have guessed for a million years that he would have cheated..he just seemed so into me and reliable, consistent....so these guys seem like flakes in that regard when compared to him..but I guess I need to chill out..I just hate when someone calls and asks you to call if you have a minute..then you do and then you don't hear from them for TWO DAYS....go figure....What do the rest of you think?
Majik45 Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 I'm not saying they won't call earlier, it's just that sometimes people get busy. If they consistently wait 2 days to call, then either they work way too much, or they are just not very curtious.
Author snilljente Posted November 12, 2004 Author Posted November 12, 2004 Yeah, I mean how interested can a guy be if calling you back within a few hours isn't a priority...I mean, I try to call within a few hours, no matter what else I have going on..even if it is to say that I am super busy but hope we can chat more when we both have time...something...I mean in this day and age of cell phones, you can call while you are doing other things....I think I have a need for a guy to be very attentive and spoil me a bit, so these guys may not be the right type for me
Author snilljente Posted November 13, 2004 Author Posted November 13, 2004 Ok...so here it is Friday...the guy that called me Wednesday (I called him back left a message and didn't hear from him)....Well, I got weak and called him this afternoon because all my friends were busy and I didn't feel like staying home....so we talked at about 5:30 he was driving to the gym and said he wasn't sure what he was doing and would call me when he was done working out and maybe we could get together...his words...he wanted to "See how he felt"...it's now 8:30...I am seriously thinking about telling him to go to you know where....it doesn't take 3 hours to work out and if we were going to do something I would need time to get ready. I am done. I don't get you guys..I am sick and tired of people telling me that I am beautiful, smart, bla bla bla..and then being UNABLE to find a decent guy who says what he does and does what he says....DONE!!!
Majik45 Posted November 13, 2004 Posted November 13, 2004 Don't get too discouraged. Good guys are out there, it's just that they get snatched up pretty quickly by the girls who know what they have.
pinkangel Posted November 13, 2004 Posted November 13, 2004 Please be happy with yourself, find interesting things to fill your life rather than waiting for his call. Be strong, then he will chase you. Only several hours, not a big deal, me busy too.
Author snilljente Posted November 13, 2004 Author Posted November 13, 2004 I just sent him a text message saying "no hard feelings, but you are too unreliable for my taste and while it will be good to see you at the gym, I am not going to be calling you anymore...".....I don't like being left hanging.....we had talked about going out...if he didn't want to, he could have just called and said, listen, I went to the gym, I am tired and I am going to head home...let's do something another time.....but instead, he just blew me off.....unacceptable....I'm done.
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