inafog1978 Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 I have been separated from my wife for 3 months when she left unannounced. Since then I have been going out, staying busy to keep my mind off of my marriage. Last night I went to a local country music dance bar just to enjoy some live music and a drink or two. I grab a stool and enjoy my beer while listening to some music. I am sitting there for about 45 minutes when I notice some friends of mine that are there so I started hanging out with them enjoying some laughs and crazy stories. As I am sitting there this girl walks up to me and says: Her: Can I ask you a question? Me: Sure Her: Are you single? Me: I am Her: See my friend over there? (points to her friend) Me: I do Her: She said that you were cute and she wants to talk to you. Me: Oh really? Ok I will go say hi Her: ok Usually girls never approach me anywhere I go, usually I do the approaching. It really surprised me that someone had interest in me. Anyways, I go up to her and say Hi, how are you? So, we start talking getting to know each other and come to find out that she is in the same field of work as I am. We chatted for a while then we danced during the next slow song and chatted on the dance floor. She asked me if I was single and I told her that I was going to be honest with her, I didnt and was not going to lie to her, so I told her that I was separated and that we have not seen or talked to each other on 3 months. I didnt get into any details about my marriage that is headed to divorce with her at all. She is a divorced mother of one child and we are around the same age. As the night ended I did get her number and told her goodnight, she told me to give her a call sometime. Well the next day I was going to a sporting event and had an extra ticket so I called her to see if she wanted to go with me, even though it was a short notice announcement but I thought that it would give us a chance to get to know each other. Well I called her the next day, she didnt answer so I left a voicemail asking her if she would like to go with me. I have yet to hear from her since I left the voice mail. I feel like we had alot in common and we really hit it off that night. She was not drinking and I only had one beer. I just dont know how to read into it. Like I said before, no one ever approaches me that has interest in me, it was a complete surprise. How should I approach her if we do have interest into each other? I am at a stage now where I am ready to move on with my life and start meeting other people and consider my marriage over since she has served me with papers and had no communication since the day she left. What do I do?
CptSaveAho Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 slow down.... if she answers/calls back.... then go out with her if she doesnt answer/call back.... then dont go out with her 1
Author inafog1978 Posted August 26, 2013 Author Posted August 26, 2013 slow down.... if she answers/calls back.... then go out with her if she doesnt answer/call back.... then dont go out with her I get this much, lol. I didnt want to scare her off by inviting her to the sporting event but they were for the next night, other than that I would have waited a few days to call her. I would like to talk to her again and maybe go out for coffee but I dont want to look desperate. If she does not call back should I wait a few days and try again?
chicaD Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 She approached you. Maybe she did it because in the spur of the moment she felt especially attracted to you (and who knows had unrealistic expectations), OR maybe she is just so used to approach guys she is attracted to that she just easily drops the ones that don't meet her expectations. Either way, just wait for things to happen naturally. Wait for her reply. If she doesn't reply, try again after a few days. If she doesn't reply the second time, forget about it and move on. Don't get too enthusiastic, but don't get too negative either.
2005tahoe Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 She approached you. Maybe she did it because in the spur of the moment she felt especially attracted to you (and who knows had unrealistic expectations), OR maybe she is just so used to approach guys she is attracted to that she just easily drops the ones that don't meet her expectations. Either way, just wait for things to happen naturally. Wait for her reply. If she doesn't reply, try again after a few days. If she doesn't reply the second time, forget about it and move on. Don't get too enthusiastic, but don't get too negative either. That's what I'm tryin to do, I thought that she would have at least responded to my voicemail and not leave me hanging, but who knows, maybe she was busy. I want to impress her and see how she feels about me since she asked her friend to approach me.
Author inafog1978 Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 That's what I'm tryin to do, I thought that she would have at least responded to my voicemail and not leave me hanging, but who knows, maybe she was busy. I want to impress her and see how she feels about me since she asked her friend to approach me. wrong thread 2005tahoe? I didnt hear from the girl today so we will see how it goes. I would love to talk to her and see what she thinks.
Author inafog1978 Posted August 28, 2013 Author Posted August 28, 2013 ok, I have decided to call her tomorrow and see if she would like to go out as friends sometime in the next few days. I just dont know what all to say to her if she answers or what to say if I have to leave a voice mail. What have some of you guys said to impress her on your initial phone call to her? thanks
Yookie Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Honestly she's probably not interested in dating you since you are newly separated. Doesn't want to be a rebound! If she hasn't responded just move on.
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