TQ86 Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 I'm a foreign student, he's local. We were both looking for one night stand and we hooked up quickly. I was feeling so lonely and wanted to try something wild. He's 10 years older than me, single. He's well-educated, fit, nice, a real gentleman that's more pleasant than most of the men I've met before. And the sex was amazing. I guess we are just so compatible with each other. When I set out looking for one night stand, I knew that I shouldn't take anything seriously. And that's exactly what I did to keep me from being hurt. Each time I met him, I was very conscious of what I said. I didn't ask him or tell him anything personal; I was afraid that if I started talking and listening, I would let my guard down and get hurt. I told him I hate answering calls so we only text each other. I never text him first, I only reply when he texts me, and I make sure I reply at least 30mins after receiving his text. When he proposed we met again, I agreed, because I really enjoyed meeting him. The 4 one night stands, first time was in my dorm and he didn't spend the night. The other three times were in nice hotels, he paid for the second and fourth time, I paid for the third time (because I insisted I pay). Each time we made love endlessly, with loads of kissing and cuddling. The fourth time was probably our last time because very soon I'll be leaving this country and he knew that. That time we talked a lot more than the previous three times. In the morning when he drove me back to my place, he leaned over to kiss me goodbye (which we did in the first time and third time). I kissed him twice and was about to get out of the car, he asked for more kisses and I did so. Then he said he would text me. I laughed and didn't say anything, because I was thinking "yep...sure...like you mean it...why would you text someone you'll never meet again". I was so prepared that we would never have anything to do with each other ever again, he texted me yesterday, 3 days after our final meeting. He said he's at work and asked me how I was doing, I replied, and he didn't reply back. I feel lucky that I'm leaving the country. Because if we continue meeting each other, I'm pretty sure that I'll let my guard down. The guys I've been with before were so awful, and he is just so wonderful. His text yesterday messed up my heart so badly. I keep telling myself it's not me that he misses, it's the sex and compatibility that he misses....yet I'm still thinking of him... I'm thinking, maybe I should text him before I leave and thank him for the good time...or maybe suggest we keep in touch...I even start thinking, maybe I should let him know that I've kind of established a positive feeling towards him... I don't know. All these ideas scare me. In the past when I told a guy I liked him, it never ended well. And I don't want to have my heart broken again...somebody help me...
BluEyeL Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Don't text him absolutely anything. If he'll miss you, he'll contact you.
Weezy1973 Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 How can someone have four one night stands? By definition a one night stand is one night only isn't it? 3
Author TQ86 Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 How can someone have four one night stands? By definition a one night stand is one night only isn't it? Yes I know an one night stand should be one night only~~ we were an one night stand that has repeated 4 times... I don't know what else I can call it. We were complete strangers before this.
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 (edited) Just send the guy a report card in regards to his skills/services I'm sure he'll appreciate the feedback; I'll show you how to fill it out... Was there an issue with the age discrepancy, did I feel older or creepy? - No, you were charming and mature...your experienced gain in 10 years paid off nicely, I felt comfortable...plus I'm mature for my age and age is "just a number" Were you satisfied with accommodations and treatment? - Yes, I was impressed with the treatment and felt flattered Did the sex feel non-generic and special and/or romantic or did you feel like a prostitute? - No, It felt intimate and special....well respected and not like a cheap whore...great job. Were you satisfied with my physique/appearance...was I well groomed and put-together? - Yes, I was very satisfied with your overall appearance, your hard work has paid off and is satisfactory. Do you feel a lulling emotional attachment after being intimate with me that surpasses your prior experiences with men? - Yes, although I am resisting as predicated I am finding myself emotionally gravitating towards the potential of this turning into "something more" to see "where it goes" Would you use this service again? Yes, very satisfied 9 out of 10 (never give a guy a 10) Would you recommend the service to a friend? - Yes, if anyone is town they have my referral Additional comments or feedback on improvements of the service? - Yes...I love you Thank you for your time...your free t-shirt from the 3rd night we spent together is in the mail. Edited August 25, 2013 by Ninjainpajamas 5
RedRobin Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 (edited) Ditto what Ninja said... My advice is to treat this like a free trip to the nail salon. Felt good while you were there. You feel pretty and special for a few weeks... but ultimately, an experience that is not terribly remarkable or special. The good news is that you ought to be in a better position to raise the bar on the other cheese-heads nearby now that you know what it looks like. Nice customer service though. Gotta hand it to the guy. *shrug* Edited August 25, 2013 by RedRobin
Leigh 87 Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 The thing with one night stands and casual encounters, is that it IS possible for the guy involved to REALLY Be into the girl, yet without wanting a relationship with her. Honestly, this guy probably really liked you. Guys do like cuddles in some instances, but I doubt he would have been like that with you if he did not at least like you or feel SOMETHING good towards you..... He liked you a lot, just not enough to want to start a serious long distance relationship with you! It sounds pretty normal to me! Not many guys would fall head over heals within the space of 4 hook ups, much less initiate a long distance relationship with you after such a short space of time! Think of things logically! - he is good looking and educated; he has options, so why would he start a long distance relationship with a chick he only just met, when he has other great girls to pick from who lime locally? - he could have very well liked you, perhaps even enough to date! There are guys who can casually hook up with women they DO like enough to date, yet hey choose not to for one reason or another. I am glad you had a fun time with this guy, but just leave it at that! Do not get upset over him or read anymore into it: he liked you, but he did not want a relationship with you long distance.
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