confused700 Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 We got into an argument and he took all his stuff with him. I haven't heard from him in a week. I tried calling him but his phone is turned off. I tried going by his moms and he tells his family he needs more time and refuses to tell me that himself. I've given up trying to talk to him since he keeps dodging me. If I don't ever hear back from him, should I file for divorce? I cant believe we haven't been married for long at all and he already looks like he gave up.
Balzac Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Greetings! Welcome to LS. You might develop your story a bit more. How old you are, more about your relationship.
Author confused700 Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 I am 29 and he is 34. We've had petty arguments but a lot of it was miscommunication and misunderstandings. I'm afraid to lose him though and not sure if I should keep trying to open up lines of communication when he isn't receptive. I don't think we have big problems at all. We are in the beginning of marriage and I find it hard to believe we cant just learn from this and move on.
hayewils Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 We need a bit more history. when did you guys get married, how long? Children? What are your thoughts on why he decided to pack up and go? What is the story on your relationship?
Author confused700 Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 we got married in April of this year and I been knowing him since I was 13 but was involved with my kids father for 10 years. We have no kids together though which scares me since we have no reason to stay in contact. Its only been a few months but I cant believe this is happening. I never thought he'd refuse to talk to me but he has. I'm not sure whether to give up on trying to reach out to him (mainly thru his sister via email) or hang it up. I want to keep trying so I show how much I care but I feel like if he wants to come back he will and if he doesn't he wont. I just wish he would at least talk to me to let me know whats going on.
Author confused700 Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 I was having a bad day and he knew that and is out of work. He was at his moms and I texted him to "have fun in my car" which got him really upset because he is full of pride. So he text back saying I can have it and when I got home he was gone.
Author confused700 Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 and when I say "its barley been a few months" I mean been only a few months married. I have not heard from him in a week.
Mr. Lucky Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 I don't think we have big problems at all. Based on the facts, hard to agree with this assessment . Has he always been this quick to anger and impulsive in his actions? Depression or substance abuse? A reasonable, grounded spouse doesn't bail on their marriage over a text. Something else going on here... Mr. Lucky 3
yessy21 Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Based on the facts, hard to agree with this assessment . Has he always been this quick to anger and impulsive in his actions? Depression or substance abuse? A reasonable, grounded spouse doesn't bail on their marriage over a text. Something else going on here... Mr. Lucky I agree. There has to be something more to his side. Something that you don't know about. This is more than pride. Stop looking for him. Stop calling. Give him a couple of weeks. Ill be honest, the outcome doesn't look great. He gave up on you too easily. 1
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