Sanctionne Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Why do I feel so sad for making the choice to leave my verbally & emotionally abusive bf? I couldn't take it any longer. He wouldn't stop w/the verbal abuse. He blamed me for him talking to me that way. I'm sorry, but there is no justifiable reason to talk to someone that you 'love' the way he talked to me. I was hoping that things would work out. He called to talk to me today. He apologized in his own way. He reminds me of those men that beat woman and say ' Oh, I'm sorry baby that you made me beat your face in. Why do you make me treat you that way?' He was trying to apologize so that I would give him another chance, but in turn he said that he was giving me another chance. Something is seriously wrong w/this guy. I'm starting to wonder how he even dresses himself in the morning.... Yet, I am very upset that things didn't work out. I literally feel sick to my stomach w/sadness. I deleted my FB so that I didn't have to see what he's going to say about me and he said that he wouldn't remove my photos because I am doing the dumping. He's a 35 yr old child and nothing but drama. Another reason I left him is that we can't have an argument w/it being broadcasted on the WWW. He seems to be the type that likes ppl to pity him. I admit that I had pity on him. We were friends for many yrs. He seemed so torn up by what his ex wife put him through. I never thought he was this type of guy. But now I can see that what he's told me and everyone else about her is only his delusional side of the story. If she really did try to kill him, I can see why. He was driving me nuts by not listening to what I was saying, the constant putdowns etc. Anyway. Thank you for letting me vent. I am going to need a lot of support right now which may be a bit difficult because most of my friends are his friends and I feel that I have no where else to turn for support. I don't want to give into him again. I deserve better. 3
me0wth Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Please to not ever go back to a man who swears at you and gets angry. Give him time and give yourself time. There are men out there who can give you everything that he did, except that they can do it without ever swearing at you and treating you like you are worthless. No one should ever do that to their lover. Maybe people can slip sometimes, but I am sure that he did this many many times. Don't put up with it. You should be angry at him, and glad that you are done. 3
Omei Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 You made the right choice! good for you! Don't worry keeeeep thinking about why you made that choice and keep it in your head! You'll feel better soon. 2
revitup Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 I sure do wish I had been as smart as you......18 yrs ago! You did the ONLY thing you could! Congradulations REVITUP 2
lonegirl Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Just did the same two and a half months ago! Also got the physical aspect of the abuse, I was forced to dump him. Believe me, it gets worse over time as people like this have ZERO respect for their partners. Run away as fast as you can! 2
Author Sanctionne Posted August 26, 2013 Author Posted August 26, 2013 Thank you all for the responses and support. I just have to keep reminding myself why I left. I grew up in an abusive home and always told myself that I would never become one of those woman. I must've allowed it to go on for as long as I did because I don't have the highest self esteem. But I do know who I am and I know that I'm none of the horrible things he said I was. When I asked him why he'd even want to stay w/someone he thought so poorly of his response was that he would just accept it and that he wanted to help me. Well, I don't accept the person I am with to think so poorly of me and he seems to be the one that needs the help. This guy is seriously sick in the head. Every bad thing he said his ex wife was is exactly what he said of me. I almost feel sorry for him. Idk if he doesn't realize what he's doing or if he's just that sick and twisted? I think he's just that sick in the head. -If he called me a bad name and I got upset over it I was bipolar and needed medication. -I bought him a ticket to a concert he really wanted to go to. He went back and forth on his decision. When he finally said no I offered it to a mutual friend so it didn't go to waste. That turned into me sleeping w/this mutual friend (in his head anyway) -If he went out and didn't have a way to get back home and I was staying in for the night and I didn't go pick him up that meant that I was leaving him stranded. (note that we did not live together and he would stay out late way before we started dating, yet he was never stranded) The list goes on and on.... Thanks again for hearing me out. 1
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