Poetic Scorpio Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 (edited) Hello everyone! I'm Darryl and I have an issue. I've known my ex since high school. I graduated in 2002. Anywho I've always been interested in her. She lives in Colorado. I live in California. May 2013, my cousin hooked me up with my ex, things sparked immediately, and a long distance relationship bloomed. June 2013 I went to Colorado to visit my family and of course my "then girlfriend" for vacation. things were great. I went back to California....my ex moved back to California with me, but left her daughter in Colorado until we were settled with our own foundation. I didn't tell her that I had a suspended drivers license and an eviction on my record until the last minute. NO I wasn't HIDING those things from her at all. I was taking care of them and have been dealing with those situations for a while so I just didn't think of telling her. Needless to say, she told me she was no longer in love with me, broke up with me then sealed it with a move back to Colorado on August 1st. The problem is when she left me, she wanted to keep in contact. I accepted the break up, realized and understood why she left and took responsibility for what happened. I was very short with her and rarely spoke to her. I was hurt and needed space so I can heal and get over her and the breakup. She just kept calling literally every day at certain times on the dot, texting me throughout the day, granted I was responding and answering, but NEVER initiated contact. I asked her why she wanted to remain in contact after not only breaking up with me, but Leaving me. She says "well we were friends before this so why can't we just be friends now?" I couldn't do it anymore, so I told her I needed some time to myself so I can heal, and reinvent myself as a man. I couldn't be friends with her because I'm still in love with her and it hurts talking to her. She claims to have understood. Now I'm confused simply because I'm getting mixed advice about this situation. People tell me "bro! She walked out on you so why would you talk to her? She made her choice as an adult, she doesn't want to be with you otherwise she would've stayed and worked things out when you offered to do so. On the other coin some people tell me to try and rekindle and work towards a possible future relationship. If you really love her then you should go get her. Now I'm even more confused..... Right now I'm focusing heavy on building my clothing line, and making a better life for my daughter and me. (no we don't have children together)..... So what should I do? Because I feel really bad for ignoring her and cutting off communications. Edited August 25, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Added paragraphs
Philosoraptor Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Look, you know that's a bogus reason to end a relationship. You don't suddenly fall out of love because you find out someone has a bad drivers license. I'd gamble she decided she didn't want to move and used that to pin the breakup on you rather than taking the blame herself. Now she's contacting you and leaning on you emotionally until she can find someone else. Yes, you were right to not just accept friendship if you wanted more than that. But you are fooling yourself if you believe someone that left you so quickly, over something so silly, is going to suddenly become stable enough for a healthy relationship.
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