Benz5 Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 this is my first post here: I have been with someone very special for more than 4 years now.. we have been through some crazy hard to believe ups and downs.. however, we have learned a lot and i believe we have reached a new understanding. We are both at an age where we can both get married... however, he says he has trust issues.. that its really hard to gain his trust. when we were younger and i was in high school.. i was friends with lots of poeple.. jsut friends.. i would talk to them about us.. and he would freak out if i talked to a guy because he never wanted me to talk to any other guy except him... so i lied to him once..but after that i realized i love him too much and that friends are not important. he is. i lost my virginity to him, he was my first kiss.. my first and only love.. he's my everything.. he mentioned that incident last night.. basically, the problem is that he has had a very crazy past.. and he lied to me he was a virgin at first and then it accidently slipped out of his mouth... and he has lied to me on several other occasions.. however.. i want us to both trust each other..we both respect each other a lot more now.. especially after everything we went through.. i want to gain his trust and i want to trust him too.. any ways to improve the trust in a relationship.. any way to improve this.. any suggestions.. i want to build up.. not break up..
Philosoraptor Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 No, he doesn't have trust issues. He's a compulsive liar and he's projecting that onto you in order to shift the blame. If you want to improve the trust in the relationship he needs to stop being a sleezy liar and start being honest. If he hasn't trusted you in 4 years, it's not suddenly going to flip a switch.
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