saltyfishhead666 Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 I don't know why I am writing this. I just need to pen the words out as I can't talk to him. Myself and my now ex fiance have fights like everyone does. When we do he goes into himself and has quiet time 1-2 weeks usually. We usually then talk it out and it's all fine. He lives 2 hours away so I can't do anything about it. Well basically I found out recently that him and his ex wife still share a bank account. Either she still uses it too or still has full access too it. I spoke to him and he said I'll take her off and close the account I just haven't had time (he's not long come back from afghanistan) I queried this again 2 days ago and the silence break began and I heard nothing from him at all yesterday. A friend of mine was curious, thinking something was wrong and went googling his username. She found he had joined match.com! I confronted him, being hurt and upset about it. (it stated his new town as he moved from here to another town 3 months ago while we were together) He said that when our last silence happened that he thought that was us done so he joined a dating site!!!! Why on earth would a man join a dating site the day after his relationship is over???? I don't understand. He emailed me today stating that he thought we had reached a truce about his ex and that he set the dating site account up when he thought we were over. He said he didn't think I trusted him and he couldn't see himself spending the rest of his life with someone who didn't. Bare in mind he lives 133 miles away, I have never accused him of anything nor ever considered him doing any wrong. I'm so confused and hurt now. Our relationship status hasn't changed on facebook despite him telling me to remove and block his daughter and he intended to remove me. I now can't shake the feeling that he's going around sleeping around. I know he's no longer mine but that thought is killing me and making me physically ill! I don't know how it's possible to go from being loved up and happily engaged to a dating site and a break up. I can't imagine myself with anyone else, or him with anyone else.
Philosoraptor Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 I'm sorry, it just doesn't seem like this relationship dynamic is healthy at all. Still shares accounts with his ex, long periods of silence, dating sites, and everything else. Seems like there are a lot more excuses than answers here.
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